I've talked to you all about my divorce previously (15 years, wife decided she wanted to leave as soon as she graduated and got her degree after I supported her and worked multiple jobs).
She's officially moving out in two weeks. Then, my lease ends in just five weeks.
Landlord already told me they're going to be selling the home and also raising rent nearly 40% if I wanted to stay. Can't afford it. Have no where to go.
Going to transition to being a 'nomad', selling the remaining few things I own, and just bouncing from airbnb to airbnb along with camping. I figured this would be a good opportunity for me to get out, travel, visit national parks, kayak, camp, fish, see the US and get my mind off everything. It's not stable. But I can't find anything. Everywhere requires "3x income" or some ridiculous score that I don't have.
Anyway. Not sure why I'm posting this here. Guess I just wanted to share with you all since I never did give any updates from my previous posts about "what should I do?"
So, really, for me, the storm is here. And the "build back better" now makes so much sense in my personal life. Weird that now I now have to suddenly build my life back. I've completely lost my identity.
No clue where this road is going to take me. But it's either 'get busy living or get busy dying.'
Say a few prayers for me. God has been good to me recently and has gotten me into the 'acceptance' phase of all this.
Edit: By the way, if anyone wants to give me a follow over on X, I'll be documenting all of my journeys. Hoping to one day get some camera gear and a drone and film everything. Might make some personal podcasts and documenting my testimony. Maybe it'll help someone in the future. https://twitter.com/@thinktankfranks
Hang in there Fren...As and outside perspective...Remember, when one door closes, another opens. There is a whole wide world out there...Be open to change and opportunity...I am sure something / place will fit. I have also been there. I would rather be miserable..and alone, than Miserable in a marriage.
Very true. She told me last night "Since you dont have anywhere to go, you can always move in with us and sleep in the living room until you find a place."
That's nice and all ... but it's time to rip off the baindaid, as I told her. She wanted this and put me in this situation. I will not be moving with her.
Also, part of me makes me think that's the matrix or something trying to pull me back in and keep me trapped (I've been stuck in this situation for a year and a half - she told me she wanted a divorce in february of 2023 but then never left the house - and I continued to try to work on our marriage which was a total waste of time). To me, it seems like I'm about to be going down the correct path. As there always seems to be some kind of odd resistance that comes out of things when I get close to breakthroughs. Just something I've noticed.
clarify why she said move in with "us".
I was looking at your other replies, but maybe missed it, do you have children?
If you have children, you need to stay involved with your children. full stop. Your children are your highest priority.
SPEZ: just saw on another replied, you mentioned you have kids.
You need to stay involved with your kids. non-negotiable.
I have kids, yes. She is taking them. Two girls, 20 and 13.