Our son was sober for 5 years. He contracted cellulitis back in February. His leg swelled to 5+ times its normal size so the docs in the hospital had him on a cocktail of meds, including pain killers. They knew his history but had to put him on the pain meds. Well, yesterday, he was arrested. He had meth and heroin. He had lost a lot of weight with the cellulitis after his 1 month hospital stay. He comes over on Fridays when my husband always fries fish. He seemed normal but I asked him if he was on drugs because of his weight loss and he told me no and that he'd take a drug test. I should have tested him but trusted he was being truthful.
Our hearts are shattered. He called earlier wanting us to bail him out but we told him no. I told him he was the one who made the decision to start taking drugs again and that he has to face the consequences of his poor choices. He threatened to hang himself. I told him that wouldn't solve anything but if he made that choice we were not responsible and we sure as hell would not feel guilty. He hung up. He tried to call again but now, I've turned off my phone. He'll have a hearing next week and hopefully the judge will decide that he can go to rehab before his trial and whatever time he is given.
Anyway, I know firsthand from previous asks that your prayers are powerful. Asking for our son and for our family. Thanks so much!
Prayers are going out to your entire family. These problems effect everyone & I am so sorry he was pulled back in this way.
I lost a friend exactly this way, went to the hospital & the doctor insisted he be given pain meds (he probably did need them) against his wishes & those of his wife. He had been sober for many years & his addiction started with pain meds from the hospital almost a decade earlier.
It ruined his parents financially. I had not heard from him for about two months when his wife called me and asked for some of the things I was storing for him until he was sober again. She asked if he had called me in the past week, and when I answered "No" she looked at a list and started balling. He died calling friends & family he needed to get right with, truly attempting to apologize for everything he had done. Apparently I was 4 down on the list. My parents were the last one he had tried to dial. He had given me hundreds of dollars over the years & told me that I needed to give it to my parents because he felt so bad for what he had done to them. He would never give me details, but my mother always hugged him & had him sit down to eat every time she saw him. She always believed he could be better, no matter how hard it was, & made sure he knew it.
Too many have been lost this way. I sincerely pray that he can find his way to lifelong recovery (sounds like he was there) again, and that Jesus will lift him up to meet all his trials.
Thank you, HonestBobbin. The fact that he had achieved sobroieity is what makes this so danged hard. I am so sorry to read about your friend. You are so right about us having lost too many good people to these drugs and the monsters who sell them.
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Virtual hugs anon.
Thanks a million, Honest. I love the gif of POTUS hugging the flag!