Good points! Ever seen the comedy Holy Moses, Hilarious... Guy gets a tent from his father-in-law, but it's on a hill... A Note on Dowry, still a custom in many countries, but in Some countries the Dowry goes to the Wife's Family and some to the Grooms. There are also countries where the groom and friends steal a bride, and she is expected to go along with it, live with the groom's family while his family tries to convince her to marry him, and to top it off she probably will be shunned if she doesn't.

I think falling in love instantly is mostly lust. As time goes on you love each other for how good you are to each other.