I don't know about you folks, however I am to the point I can pick out S/P signs within seconds, it's everywhere!! Learn the signs and share with family and friends.., it's more important than you think!!
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This is correct.
I taught my kids when they were very little that if ever they were told things like, "Don't be a snitch or a tattletale' or 'It will be our little secret', or 'You must promise me to never tell anyone', etc., that they needed to tell mommy or daddy right away. I told them that we would decide if the secret should be kept, and that it was OK to be a tattletale and that if someone said that, that they were probably doing something bad.
Additionally, I told them that if someone wanted a hug or a kiss and they didn't want to give it that they should say, 'No thank you.' I would not let relatives or strangers guilt them into going against their instincts. My kids knew I had their back. This way, I thought it would better equip them to resist groomers or other 'familiar strangers' that tried to guilt them into being touched.
My brother even got into an argument with me when he said about my oldest, 'What? He has to hug me. I'm his uncle!" And I said, "No he doesn't". You have no right to demand that. He doesn't want to right now, and that's that!"
After this, my little son ended up sharing two things about the neighbor kids due to this advice which he was feeling a very heavy dread about the weight of 'you must keep our secret'. Good thing he told me.