Make him sit down and talk to the both of you. Ask him why does he hate you. Tell him how you feel about his actions. Let him know in order for him to live in YOUR home he needs to shape up. If he still won't talk to you suggest you no longer provide him anything but the basics.
Tell him you love and care about him, but you won't put up with it. If he thinks you are horrible then tell him to move out, job or not. If he doesn't want to be a part of the family , he can move in with friends. My Mom had to put my sister into foster care, at her request, she said she hated all of us. She was very happy to leave but learned very fast, a foster family does not love or care for you. It took her 3 years for her to be able to come home and she learned a hard lesson. One family would not let her sit at the table and she only got oatmeal to eat. She had to use a different bathroom than the family and many other things like that. She even called one time to be removed to Juvenal Hall where she had better treatment. She went through 4 homes before she finally realized, her real family was the only ones that cared. My Mom had to pay for this, because she received benefits from VA from my dad's service. Our family councilor told us our family's problem was we didn't talk to each other or do anything as a family. We had to start eating together for every meal and talk about our day. It helped a lot