Unrelated but interesting to share..A few years ago I grew my beard and hair really long during COVID..I could I've written a book called Homeless Like Me. How society treats you differently if they think you're unemployed. As my opinion of Society dropped during COVID, this was an added contempt to the superficiality of Society. There were also people who were Really kind. It was a fun experiment. It left me caring less about what people think about me. A comfort.
I read that book Black Like Me as a freshman in high school. Changed me from racist to realist.
Your point is a good one: people do judge books by their covers...if you want people to think they don't need to take you seriously, dye your hair in the colors of the rainbow, put on a dress over your hairy flat chest, get multiple piercings, and wear a handful of fishing tackle on your face.
I learned much from that book. It had a profound impact on how I saw the World. Apparently they banned it in Schools now. Over the years I've made references to it by saying "Blanc Like Me". Really happy to see a Fren recognize the reference. A Realist is something they don't want us to be.
There is an explanation why we judge at a glance. Its survival instinct, fight or flight, and theres little chance that it ever changes. Same reasons why we segregate ourselves into like individuals. These instincts are honed by millions of years of evolution.
I did this too, last year after my grandfather passed.. I didn't shave or cut my hair for 1 year.. during that time i would run into strangers and they would either cast judgement on me and look down thier noses at me like i was a scumbag.... or some people, maybe 1 in 5, would treat me like i was their long lost brother or something and be 2x as nice as anyone ive ever met.. a surreal experience that taught me how people think. I'm happy that you also noticed the same thing.
Unrelated but interesting to share..A few years ago I grew my beard and hair really long during COVID..I could I've written a book called Homeless Like Me. How society treats you differently if they think you're unemployed. As my opinion of Society dropped during COVID, this was an added contempt to the superficiality of Society. There were also people who were Really kind. It was a fun experiment. It left me caring less about what people think about me. A comfort.
I read that book Black Like Me as a freshman in high school. Changed me from racist to realist.
Your point is a good one: people do judge books by their covers...if you want people to think they don't need to take you seriously, dye your hair in the colors of the rainbow, put on a dress over your hairy flat chest, get multiple piercings, and wear a handful of fishing tackle on your face.
I learned much from that book. It had a profound impact on how I saw the World. Apparently they banned it in Schools now. Over the years I've made references to it by saying "Blanc Like Me". Really happy to see a Fren recognize the reference. A Realist is something they don't want us to be.
There is an explanation why we judge at a glance. Its survival instinct, fight or flight, and theres little chance that it ever changes. Same reasons why we segregate ourselves into like individuals. These instincts are honed by millions of years of evolution.
I did this too, last year after my grandfather passed.. I didn't shave or cut my hair for 1 year.. during that time i would run into strangers and they would either cast judgement on me and look down thier noses at me like i was a scumbag.... or some people, maybe 1 in 5, would treat me like i was their long lost brother or something and be 2x as nice as anyone ive ever met.. a surreal experience that taught me how people think. I'm happy that you also noticed the same thing.
There was an experiment done by a mayor in Portland Oregon. You are correct. It was an interesting thing.