It's my understanding that rents are incredibly high. I'm only going by what I've been told. And please remember that salaries are not standardized -- so I don't think you can make the assumption that they can't budget correctly. They may be underpaid.
Do you really mean "parents" take care of the kids? Or do you mean "mom" should stay at home at take care of the kids? I suspect you do.
Inasmuch as a lot of people believe stay at home moms are the answer to all of societal problems, I am not altogether sure that's completely true. I am old you see. I remember what it was like then, and what it is like now and truthfully -- it's like being Goldilocks and knowing that one is too little and one is too big and neither was ever quite right.
But social considerations notwithstanding, I don't believe you can put the genie back in the bottle.
Take myself for example -- my earliest memory of my answer to what I wanted to be when I grew up (about age 4 or 5) was -- an archeologist. My parents had this fascinating series of books on exotic lands and one of them featured Egyptian pyramids and hieroglyphics. However, when I voiced this aspiration -- I was promptly told, "Girls can't be archeologists". Nor apparently, could they be any other remotely interesting profession in which, I expressed an interest.
Mind you -- I had no interest in playing professional football or becoming a fireman -- just things that required intelligence, but not physical strength.
I expressed at one point I might wish to study law. I was told that I had nerve attempting to take a spot in law school that could go to a man who would then support a family.
It was assumed I would marry (so happens I did, but what if I had not? Was I supposed to starve and live at poverty level? I wondered how the importance of the fate of some hypothetical man mattered more to my father than his own daughter's future, but I digress.) Everything that was remotely interesting was out of reach due to my sex.
All the choice opportunities were denied me, while richness of opportunity was heaped upon my brother. I was somewhat jealous but more baffled as to why an appendage had such meaning -- why being male bestowed such preferential treatment.
Understand -- my situation was not unique. Ask any woman in my age group about the limitation of "opportunities". You'll get an earful about favoritism of "brothers"!
I did as well as I could for myself given little parental support.
Presently, all of my material possessions are due to my husband. I appreciate him. I appreciate his generosity.
However, I look back on my life (and I am in my twilight years) and I see a waste of my potential. My husband tells me I could have been stellar had circumstances been different. He says the fault was not mine.
That doesn't mean I don't love my kids or that I wasn't a good mother. It's just that all the dreams I ever had never had a chance because of the attitudes prevalent at the time I was growing up.
I don't think you want to put 50% of the nation in my shoes. Shoving people into a box and telling them they can't be who they are because of their sex is such a waste of human resources.
These young ladies of today -- they definitely need their attitudes adjusted in many ways, but I don't believe that the solution is to go back to archaic models of feminine roles.
Why even use daycare? Why not have parents take care of their kids?
Some gullible people might say "Oh, but both parents need to work. Living costs are so high."
First of all, living costs are artificially inflated, including massive taxes, housing, and medical.
Second of all, childcare is used by people who are bad at math and don't understand budgeting.
It's my understanding that rents are incredibly high. I'm only going by what I've been told. And please remember that salaries are not standardized -- so I don't think you can make the assumption that they can't budget correctly. They may be underpaid.
Do you really mean "parents" take care of the kids? Or do you mean "mom" should stay at home at take care of the kids? I suspect you do.
Inasmuch as a lot of people believe stay at home moms are the answer to all of societal problems, I am not altogether sure that's completely true. I am old you see. I remember what it was like then, and what it is like now and truthfully -- it's like being Goldilocks and knowing that one is too little and one is too big and neither was ever quite right.
But social considerations notwithstanding, I don't believe you can put the genie back in the bottle.
Take myself for example -- my earliest memory of my answer to what I wanted to be when I grew up (about age 4 or 5) was -- an archeologist. My parents had this fascinating series of books on exotic lands and one of them featured Egyptian pyramids and hieroglyphics. However, when I voiced this aspiration -- I was promptly told, "Girls can't be archeologists". Nor apparently, could they be any other remotely interesting profession in which, I expressed an interest.
Mind you -- I had no interest in playing professional football or becoming a fireman -- just things that required intelligence, but not physical strength.
I expressed at one point I might wish to study law. I was told that I had nerve attempting to take a spot in law school that could go to a man who would then support a family. It was assumed I would marry (so happens I did, but what if I had not? Was I supposed to starve and live at poverty level? I wondered how the importance of the fate of some hypothetical man mattered more to my father than his own daughter's future, but I digress.) Everything that was remotely interesting was out of reach due to my sex.
All the choice opportunities were denied me, while richness of opportunity was heaped upon my brother. I was somewhat jealous but more baffled as to why an appendage had such meaning -- why being male bestowed such preferential treatment.
Understand -- my situation was not unique. Ask any woman in my age group about the limitation of "opportunities". You'll get an earful about favoritism of "brothers"!
I did as well as I could for myself given little parental support.
Presently, all of my material possessions are due to my husband. I appreciate him. I appreciate his generosity.
However, I look back on my life (and I am in my twilight years) and I see a waste of my potential. My husband tells me I could have been stellar had circumstances been different. He says the fault was not mine.
That doesn't mean I don't love my kids or that I wasn't a good mother. It's just that all the dreams I ever had never had a chance because of the attitudes prevalent at the time I was growing up.
I don't think you want to put 50% of the nation in my shoes. Shoving people into a box and telling them they can't be who they are because of their sex is such a waste of human resources.
These young ladies of today -- they definitely need their attitudes adjusted in many ways, but I don't believe that the solution is to go back to archaic models of feminine roles.
Just my humble opinion --
What about both parents work part-time? With good work skills, that is totally feasible. Many home-schooling parents do this.
And maybe "men's work" is mostly irrelevant and not all that terribly interesting.
I guess it would depend on what kind of "men's work" it was -- but you have to admit most of traditional female work isn't very engaging.
I wasn't aware there were that many opportunities for part-time work that were lucrative. That could work.