My mother was a loved pillar in the family (passed 2021) and, while I do miss her, I was not heartbroken when she passed, at home, peacefully in her sleep after a long fight with cancer. There were no tears that day, when the coroners office people came to pick up her body from the house that morning, they asked if we (her 3 adult children) wanted to say goodbye. The man was acknowledged with a soft smile and told, "not needed, we all said our goodbyes to her last night as we kissed her forehead and told her good night. My mother is not in that body any longer, thank you for asking." Now, my situation was different, we all knew it was going to happen sooner than later, she was failing fast the last two weeks unlike, Charlie who was taken abruptly so, Erika, fam, friends and well, everyone was hit with a shock, what.. no one person will react the same way over. For an OUTSIDER to be spewing that "your words are inappropriate" when it is such a profoundly personal subject like this, kinda disgusts me and has me not respecting that outsiders words or trusting their motives much tbh.