Sad to say somehow I raised a raging liberal. Not that he isn't surrounded by other family members that agree, but still. Anyway, I fear we may be one of those Civil War households. I told him to keep it down (playing a video game God this post just keeps getting more depressing) and he had a meltdown about how Trump is a fascist dictator. Didn't think it was the time to send this Babylon Bee article LOL. https://babylonbee.com/news/dangerous-fascist-dictator-censored-and-voted-out-of-office If there's any good news in this story, I think whatever HE reads to get his information must be chock full of pure PANIC. Otherwise you'd think he'd be glad to be rid of Orange Man Bad in a few days.
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He'll be 25 this year
Nothing wrong with videogames as a hobby. I'm 24, married, and about to be a dad, and play games when I have free time. Games are a great medium for story telling and very rewarding. It's all about putting responsibility before fun though, just like with any hobbies.
I've heard this line from people who will gladly spend 5 hours on a board game, mowing their yard, building bird houses etc.
Yeah you can go fuck yourself.
Or you just learn to live with your differences and love your son no matter his retardation.
Agreed that he needs to move out. I don't think he's been babied altogether though. He's had a job since he was 16 years old, still excelled in school and worked all through college. He's working now. Neither of my kids were ever too proud to take manual labor jobs and they did them well. Now both working pursuant to their majors - Math/statistics (older) Computer science and logistics (younger).
Ma'am, with all due respect, it's time. Make the conversation calm, though he will try to escalate with emotion; and if you feel the need... provide a written financial weaning plan with benchmarks and deadlines he has to hit to even keep that. Ask yourself this: should two (fill in you and your spouse's ages) year olds be subsidizing the living expenses of a 25 year old able bodied male? I'm gonna guess he still benefits from your cooking and cleaning too. Time to cut the cord. It's best for him.
Agree.
Thanks. I think he's probably got to get out into the real world. There is part of me that thinks I can make him change his mind if I have just a little more time with him. Prolly not.
Yeah, I'm going.to second.the comment from u/th3colon3l - time for some Dave Ramsey and some Jordan Peterson
I don't think so. He had a pretty steady girlfriend his senior year in HS and then through Freshman year in college but he broke up with her. His friends are all pretty normal hard working young people. We are in Chicago but in the most conservative ward in the City. The ONLY ward that voted Trump. Mostly police and fire. Still, being a conservative in Chicago is like being the tallest midget in Iowa, or whatever the saying is.
lol Good luck with him, fellow pede mom. Hope he chill out soon.
Thanks me too.
Most likely suspect: college=liberal I’m just thankful that my daughter chose military. She loves to tell people how she got her college degree for free!
Yes, i agree.
I'm 24 and have been married for 2 years, lived out of my house since I was 20, and have a kid on the way. The best thing that ever happened to me (besides having my parents be who they are, meeting my wife, or finding out I have a son) was having to pay my own bills. I grew up real quick when my dad he wasn't gonna pay my bills anymore since I had a job.
Yup. Seems to be the consensus.
WAY to old for a man-child to be at his parents' home.
I left home at 17.
Men only become men by being in the world on their own - without buffering.
A protected man-child will remain a man-child.
A man's strength of character comes in large part from parents who have the strength of will to overcome their own soft reluctance to push their loved children into the world's reality.
I am a woman, my parents paid for college and then I worked days and went to law school at night. That was a long three years - 5:30 am to 9:30 pm. I lived with my sister for awhile and we split rent in the city after her husband ditched her. During my last year of law school I moved in with my folks again until I got married shortly after graduation. Long time ago.
I never thought of sharing living space while people are saving up for their future as a huge crutch, I guess. Maybe it's different with men. They both work, and work pretty hard. They save their money, buy their own things - neither is extravagant in any way. Never turned down manual labor as beneath them which I was quietly very proud of, both excelled academically and a lot of those kids have huge entitlement thing. But still, I think given the recent attitude it might be time for some tough love.
That's a full grown man. Alexander conquered the known world by 25. No shit he's a liberal when he doesn't have to work for a roof over his head lol.