Thank you so much, my fren! Your advice is greatly appreciated!
It's interesting you recommend a male counselor, he was working with a lady therapist, who he thought was very nice but who he felt had a path in mind for him before he chose one.
Thank you VERY much for the book recommendations. He read Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents but felt there was something wrong with his mother (he's scared of her, constant nightmares, etc) beyond what the book addressed. I will order those books right now!
You are welcome! When your mom's a narcissist, you're going to have mommy issues. I don't know your husband's story, nor should I -- it just seems that starting with a good Christian based male counselor, the focus will be more on understanding where his duty to his mother ends.
If she's really out there, you might read up on whether she might be a borderline. Thats especially difficult to deal with -- the victim stance raises flags -- but in the end, it comes down to gracefully & effectively communicating how much $hit you're willing to accept. (Truly an art)
I don't think my comments uploaded. Been having problems that way lately!
Will give you the meat of it here: 15 years working with ppl (therapy)
Find a male Christian counselor who has some training in narcissistic disorders and supports your right to choose
2 books: children of the self absorbed The narcissistic family
Thank you so much, my fren! Your advice is greatly appreciated!
It's interesting you recommend a male counselor, he was working with a lady therapist, who he thought was very nice but who he felt had a path in mind for him before he chose one.
Thank you VERY much for the book recommendations. He read Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents but felt there was something wrong with his mother (he's scared of her, constant nightmares, etc) beyond what the book addressed. I will order those books right now!
You are welcome! When your mom's a narcissist, you're going to have mommy issues. I don't know your husband's story, nor should I -- it just seems that starting with a good Christian based male counselor, the focus will be more on understanding where his duty to his mother ends.
If she's really out there, you might read up on whether she might be a borderline. Thats especially difficult to deal with -- the victim stance raises flags -- but in the end, it comes down to gracefully & effectively communicating how much $hit you're willing to accept. (Truly an art)
Looks like that one landed!
As far as my husband goes, he was just less and less available.