While I wish I could have fought back, I'm only a girl, I had no real strength or power. And while I tried to fight back mentally and with wit it never turned out well, I just didn't have the courage for it back then. I'm much stronger now, both physically and mentally, and it's true that being bullied helped me achieve that, but I wish it still hadn't happened because it truly did scar me for all this time. It's something you'd like to forget but it becomes so ingrained in you that you can't escape it.
Ever since that horrible bullying I've always been extremely self-conscious and I always look down. I tell myself that those bullies are not doing so well in life and that I'm doing better than them, but that's only true half of the time. Unfortunately a lot of them have gone on to live successful lives, no doubt back springing off of the wealth of their parents. But life is never fair, so the only thing I can do is to better myself and hope I will be rewarded in kind someday.
The best way that you can "get over" what happened to you so that you look at it as an unfortunate even and not let it define you is through either EMDR or you could try sleep hypnosis audios or videos. There's a ton of free ones but EMDR is very powerful and has helped me with several similar issues.
Stand up straight, hold your head up high and look people in the eye. Your current posture just screams victim and will encourage someone else to victimize you.
As hard as it may seem, you will eventually get to a point where you will learn to not unwillingly give people any type of power over you.
I don't consider myself as a victim, and I don't hold myself as such now, but I still have trouble being my true self around people for fear I'll be rejected and ostracized like I was back then at the tender age of 12. I became very outspoken in my early 20s but I'm far more reserved now, losing energy as I get older, but I speak up when I can. Some days are better, some days aren't, it really just depends. I try not to let what happened to me have much effect now, but traumatizing things that happen when you're a child hold onto you forever no matter how much you wish they wouldn't. I try to fill my time with useful and active pursuits.
Yep. I was bullied by a bunch of girls all through high school. A couple of black leather black lipstick seniors decided I was their new target. Didn’t know them and had never talked to them.
One day I was running late for class. I was by my locker getting my books and in a rush because I had to run to the next class. They surrounded me. Started talking smack and I was in such a panic because I didn’t want to be late. So I punched the leader in the temple. I was holding a pen between my fingers and the pen scratched her temple.
Needless to say she was shocked. She held up her hands and started shaking like she just won miss America. I told her “I’m sorry I hurt you, I don’t even know you. You need to Leave me the fuck alone!” And after that. They did.
Nothing shuts a bully up more than defense of self. Ralphie in Christmas story with Scutt Farkus. Lol. Sweet example
You must have been the bully!
nope. got messed with freshman year hs, whacked that asshole with a hockey stick in the shins, didn't happen again after that.
While I wish I could have fought back, I'm only a girl, I had no real strength or power. And while I tried to fight back mentally and with wit it never turned out well, I just didn't have the courage for it back then. I'm much stronger now, both physically and mentally, and it's true that being bullied helped me achieve that, but I wish it still hadn't happened because it truly did scar me for all this time. It's something you'd like to forget but it becomes so ingrained in you that you can't escape it.
Ever since that horrible bullying I've always been extremely self-conscious and I always look down. I tell myself that those bullies are not doing so well in life and that I'm doing better than them, but that's only true half of the time. Unfortunately a lot of them have gone on to live successful lives, no doubt back springing off of the wealth of their parents. But life is never fair, so the only thing I can do is to better myself and hope I will be rewarded in kind someday.
brutal
The best way that you can "get over" what happened to you so that you look at it as an unfortunate even and not let it define you is through either EMDR or you could try sleep hypnosis audios or videos. There's a ton of free ones but EMDR is very powerful and has helped me with several similar issues.
Stand up straight, hold your head up high and look people in the eye. Your current posture just screams victim and will encourage someone else to victimize you.
As hard as it may seem, you will eventually get to a point where you will learn to not unwillingly give people any type of power over you.
Wishing you the best that life has to offer.
I don't consider myself as a victim, and I don't hold myself as such now, but I still have trouble being my true self around people for fear I'll be rejected and ostracized like I was back then at the tender age of 12. I became very outspoken in my early 20s but I'm far more reserved now, losing energy as I get older, but I speak up when I can. Some days are better, some days aren't, it really just depends. I try not to let what happened to me have much effect now, but traumatizing things that happen when you're a child hold onto you forever no matter how much you wish they wouldn't. I try to fill my time with useful and active pursuits.
Yep. I was bullied by a bunch of girls all through high school. A couple of black leather black lipstick seniors decided I was their new target. Didn’t know them and had never talked to them.
One day I was running late for class. I was by my locker getting my books and in a rush because I had to run to the next class. They surrounded me. Started talking smack and I was in such a panic because I didn’t want to be late. So I punched the leader in the temple. I was holding a pen between my fingers and the pen scratched her temple.
Needless to say she was shocked. She held up her hands and started shaking like she just won miss America. I told her “I’m sorry I hurt you, I don’t even know you. You need to Leave me the fuck alone!” And after that. They did.
Nothing shuts a bully up more than defense of self. Ralphie in Christmas story with Scutt Farkus. Lol. Sweet example