Been living with a full on TDS NPC White Guilt poster child (grown man) for the past year. We were pretty good friends before we moved in together at the very beginning of covid when I didn't know how big of a scam it was. We've been silently resenting each other for quite some time. I resent him for doing absolutely nothing helpful around the house, and he resents me because I don't wear a mask.
Last night, we finally got into it. He started screaming at me and calling me all sorts of things, and... It felt good? Super weird. I just looked at him and smiled as he flew his middle fingers high and repeatedly said "fuck you".
Only one month left. I'm thinking about doing nothing around the house to make a point. The trash will pile up, the dishes won't be done, the floors will be disgusting... Not sure if I want to live like a degenerate to make a point to someone who won't learn though.
He will be staying in the same house. It's a shame, because the house is beautiful when taken care of. It'll have ants within a month of me moving out, no doubt. Hopefully it will make him grow, but I don't think it'll happen. He's a really smart guy, but because of that he believes himself to be to good for doing chores around the house. He's got a good heart, but he's lost and angry right now. He invested a lot of money into the business side of COVID (masks) and it's all crumbling before him. He gambled and lost, and is doubling down on delusion instead of waking up.
I see then, the situation is reversed.
In that case, may I suggest you write a letter to him? It may be a fair stretch and a risky effort, but perhaps where the highly charged, spoken word has failed, the written word (which is somewhat underrated and underused these days) may help him see a glimpse of what you see and even a way out, before it is too late and something good is made unrecoverable.