So I’ve got 6 kids 16 down to 7, I am highly opinionated and vocal at home. My husband is cool with it but one of my kids has no filter and has said stuff at school. He is 14 so I told him to be careful what he says but he likes to joke around and he asks lots of questions. I have told him never apologize for being who you are, especially as he is a white child and CRT is seeping into our district. I like to keep my kids educated on the evils of the world, to think critically, and trust their intuition… but sometimes I worry it’s too much. My daughter, fine now, but part way through covid would cry at night worrying we would die. Granted she is a very passionate girl so I expect some drama, and she is 9. I let them listen to X22 with me and they constantly want to know what I am reading or anytime I talk to their dad. Am I wrong?
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Martha,
The image of your family gathered around the big console radio in the family room, waiting for the "Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii" to begin their night's excitement, much like Roy riding Trigger at breakneck speeds did for The Roy Rogers Show, is just too much.
Thank you for the visual treat.
My 15 year old even has full understanding of mk ultra & SRA. She has moments of drama but is an amazing human with a full understanding of current events abs the truth. “It’s about the children”.
11 and under... I dunno. I’m glad she’s older.
14 yo is a boy, I have 5 boys and one girl. I let them kind of lead with what they are comfortable with talking about. My 14 yo feel comfortable talking to me so he asks my EVERYTHING! Sometimes I have to tell him “I don’t know, I was never a teenage boy” ? I don’t ever push anything on them but I never lie to them, well I’m sure I’ve lied to them but but not when they ask me for information
My daughter is grown.
The only advice I can give you is that it is tough being a kid. Remember being a kid? Work to educate them, but try to avoid saddling them with adult problems. It's a fine line to be sure.
Thanks! Yeah I had a lot of crap as a kid and want it to be better for my kids but not create an unrealistic idea of life to where they can’t handle the real world. They are very fortunate to have a good dad in the home, a stay at home mom, middle class, nice home etc. which I didn’t have growing up but then my 14 yo thinks he is being tortured because he has to deal with a special needs brother. Fine line between raising entitled brats and hurting them with too much.
I don't think it's wrong at all to be honest when talking to kids. Level with them about what is happening and what you expect to happen in the future. Kids will absorb it better than you'd think.
However, it's wrong to lay burdens on the kids so that they feel helpless. Kids can build things up in their minds. That's not right.
Instead, give your kids the facts that they can handle... but then give them things THEY CAN DO to help. Give each one particular jobs (within their abilities) in the family and explain how vital it is that we all pull together.
For example; Get the younger kids to work with you in helping organize the food pantry. That way, you can make sure you have enough food for 2-weeks in case things go wrong. It teaches the kids to read labels, read expiration dates and organizational skills.
Give one of the kids a job of checking batteries, re-charging batteries and plug-in devices once per week.
Give one of the kids a job of checking water, charcoal, matches and other inventory once per week.
Give one of the kids the job of checking on elderly neighbors once per week. Give little kids a pellet or BB gun and spend a few hours each week practicing shooting with them. Teach older kids basic self-defense including how to use available weapons effectively.
More than that, spend a day per week teaching a little about emergency preparedness. If your kids can't swim... then fix that and make sure they can. If they can't cook or grill... make sure they know how. Have a family meal cooked over an open fire or grill, which the kids cook while you supervise.
Kids respond to things like that. They won't get nervous and feel helpless... if they know there are things they can do to prepare. You may find that the kids excel when they understand that they can play an active role in helping. Your son may also learn not to draw attention to himself, which is a lesson you should also impart as part of family preparedness.
Sadly, I am not a parent but I applaud how you are raising your kids. As far as the 9 yr old goes, it sounds to me she is acting normal. She has a lot of crap being tossed at her (from adults at school) that upsets her (their goal).
Just keep your eye on her and reassure her when you think it's needed. X-22 is pretty tame and easy to listen to. Good choice.
Your kids sound incredibly inquisitive and that is FANTASTIC!
They are! I love how fun they are to talk to and in general. I fought the schools to get masks off my kids and my daughter was the first to be brave enough to ditch it and got on me when I was feeling nervous about going maskless. I got her an exemption for school and she proudly walked in not caring what people said to her. My kids think I’m easy to talk to so it helps. I never felt comfortable talking to my own mother- who happens to be crazy liberal. I love talking to my kids.
My mom also. Sad.
Keep up the fantastic work!
That’s great actually. I did start talking about child actors because she was admiring them and wanted to do that. I tried to do it delicately but what you said may work.
You are their parent. Keep them.bathed in truth.
My little sister is 10 and knows the Covid propaganda is fake. I don’t let her be scared or manipulated by bad logic. She knows she doesn’t need a mask for health.
Yes my daughter knows that as well. I worry more about the child trafficking and so on. I try to tell her about stranger danger etc but don’t want to petrify her to where she is scared of everyone. My 14 yo wants to know all of it.
Teach your kids to be situationally aware. How to get help if they need it. Be safe online. And beware of perverts. Kids should keep their innocence of heinous evil as long as possible. I remember the concept of rape being scary and difficult for me when I learned about it as a kid.
In third grade my friend and I watched PETA videos of foxes being skinned alive. I read all of Stephen Hawking's books in 5th grade. I had a higher understanding of the universe at 10 than most adults. By high school I had already seen plenty of ISIS beheadings and snuff films. My parents are Asian so they had no idea since Asian families don't talk about those kind of things. I talked to some friends and found out it's actually pretty normal.
You shouldn't underestimate kids, especially smart kids. If you don't show them they will find it on the internet on their own. You would be surprised how awake Zoomers are. The Pizzagate theory originally exploded on TikTok. A lot of kids grew up watching their favorite celebrities die or get outed as Illuminati. I think it's easier for kids to accept the truth than adults who lived under a rock their entire lives.
I have thought of that. I have a special needs son who I can’t provide the services for or the money to pay private. We moved into one of the best districts in the Nation for special Ed. No complaints, he is doing fantastic. The other kids I really have thought of it by my 16yo almost 17, going to be a junior wants to finish in public. I feel like he is old enough and bright enough to make that decision. I’m not worried about him at all, he likes Steven Crowder and think “wholeness” is idiotic. The others, I don’t know. We are going f to start this next year and play it by ear.
I don’t think that’s wrong at all. If you have researched the topics you discuss and don’t feed your children lies then there is no wrong. All truth is Gods truth and that truth includes anything going on in your day to day life, from my understanding of the world.
Whenever I recite the ABC's for my 7 month old, I always skip straight Q and then the "now I know my ABC's" part. Likewise, we count to 17 all the time ?
Its all about walking that line and finding that balance between too much that stresses them out, and keeping them all in the dark.. while knowing that the creatures in the dark will still be waiting and hunting for them.
If even grown adults can be sickened to the point of suicide at what they have seen on Anthony Weiners laptop, there is certainly things that children should never know.
Doesn't sound like you are off track but need to keep doing what you are doing. Keeping the ongoing dialogue and trust between you and them + hubby is the most important thing. Setting aside time for family chats and discussions each day before people scatter off to do homework and time for baths and all that probably helps.
We almost always have dinner together at the table. I know it’s probably weird these days to hear that, but we are a pretty close family. We have never been into sports or activities besides piano/guitar lessons or church youth activities. We are weird and like it. Thanks
Imagine if your kids grew up thinking it was ok to force everyone around you to wear masks and get experimental injections.
A parent must protect the innocence of the young child. The innocent young child deserves to feel safe!, this is the time to allow the child's attention to the present, which is intended for growth and natural education.
Read to the young ones, the classic stories intended for young ones, to form their minds and their characters.
That is more important than the polemics of this time. In 1, 2, 5 years, the stuff of this news cycle will be replaced by some other attack upon our values and the truth.
Instead of countering the endless lies and propaganda at this instant in time, give them the tools to know and discern the truth, for all lies and propaganda at all times. The older ones, yes, also help them to counter the lies and propaganda they personally are already confronting.
Good points! We are religious so that is definitely a part of what we teach and I really do try to go by what they ask. My biggest worry is when talking with the older kids, one of which asks a LOT of questions, what is my daughter hearing. Anything super serious we leave the room but she always wants to know what we are saying. My 14 yo has had some issues that we have had to talk about privately. My youngest as far as I know doesn’t understand any of it or care. He is nonverbal and almost always happy