Dear Prudence is online weekly to chat live with readers. Here’s an edited transcript of this week’s chat.
Jenée Desmond-Harris: Welcome to the chat! I spent the weekend in Napa with a group of good friends and did nothing but relax, so I’m feeling patient and generous. Let’s see what that means for answering these questions …
Q. Vaccine vortex: My husband and I have both received our COVID vaccines, but he refuses to vaccinate our children. When I ask him why, he tells me he “has reasons,” but won’t divulge them. I have shown him countless articles and reports from the CDC saying the vaccine is safe for children, but he won’t budge. He actually told me the CDC, WHO, and AMA are all “corrupt organizations” and he won’t listen to their advisories.
I’m at my wit’s end. Cases are surging in my county. I told him I didn’t understand why my “yes” meant less than his “no,” but he doubled-down with “I’ve made my decision.” How can we get past this?
A: You have until this point been a vaccinating family, and I think what makes sense is to default to the status quo agreement. He’s the one who is seemingly being radicalized at this very moment and suddenly became anti-science, so he should be the one who has to negotiate a new set of rules. So unless he can convince you that he’s right (spoiler: he can’t), vaccinate the kids.
Yes, he’ll be mad, but there’s no room for compromise here. And the answer to your question about why your “yes” means less than his “no” is: It doesn’t. It actually means more.
Prudence's answer is not logical. since it is not an approved vaccine, then her answer is bullshit and it is up to the wife to convince him to get the kids vaxxed with the experimental treatment. all the other vaccines given in childhood are much safer and have been approved through the process over many years of data. this has almost no data on long term effects such as for fertility on children or anybody else for that matter.
and if my spouse went behind my back and vaxxed the kids with this non-approved treatment, that would be a divorceable offense.
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Dear Prudence is online weekly to chat live with readers. Here’s an edited transcript of this week’s chat.
Jenée Desmond-Harris: Welcome to the chat! I spent the weekend in Napa with a group of good friends and did nothing but relax, so I’m feeling patient and generous. Let’s see what that means for answering these questions …
Q. Vaccine vortex: My husband and I have both received our COVID vaccines, but he refuses to vaccinate our children. When I ask him why, he tells me he “has reasons,” but won’t divulge them. I have shown him countless articles and reports from the CDC saying the vaccine is safe for children, but he won’t budge. He actually told me the CDC, WHO, and AMA are all “corrupt organizations” and he won’t listen to their advisories.
I’m at my wit’s end. Cases are surging in my county. I told him I didn’t understand why my “yes” meant less than his “no,” but he doubled-down with “I’ve made my decision.” How can we get past this?
A: You have until this point been a vaccinating family, and I think what makes sense is to default to the status quo agreement. He’s the one who is seemingly being radicalized at this very moment and suddenly became anti-science, so he should be the one who has to negotiate a new set of rules. So unless he can convince you that he’s right (spoiler: he can’t), vaccinate the kids.
Yes, he’ll be mad, but there’s no room for compromise here. And the answer to your question about why your “yes” means less than his “no” is: It doesn’t. It actually means more.
Prudence's answer is not logical. since it is not an approved vaccine, then her answer is bullshit and it is up to the wife to convince him to get the kids vaxxed with the experimental treatment. all the other vaccines given in childhood are much safer and have been approved through the process over many years of data. this has almost no data on long term effects such as for fertility on children or anybody else for that matter.
and if my spouse went behind my back and vaxxed the kids with this non-approved treatment, that would be a divorceable offense.