Hi everyone,
I'm looking for some tips re: how to have a close, connected relationship with my wife who's asleep. We have been drifting further apart since I started waking up since November. Do any of you have a GOOD STRONG CONNNECTED relationship with your spouse who's asleep? Any tips?
I'm not looking for tips on how to wake her up because often my attempts to red-pill has caused even more disconnect. I'm looking for tips for how to have a GOOD STRONG CONNECTED relationship despite the awake vs. asleep difference.
For context of our difference, my wife was double-vaxxed ASAP and disregards my conclusions about anything when people in authoritative positions say otherwise. We're both Christians, but it's different now. I think I was spiritually woken up and I see the world differently. She's asleep and not interested in waking up and I feel like she wants me to fall back asleep in order to connect. Problem is.. I don't want to go back to sleep. Any tips are appreciated!
The start: I asked my husband what he thought about George Bush using the IRS to openly target liberal groups. He was livid. When I said "fooled ya... That was Obama" and I had my receipts with Lois Lerner.... He was blown away. I pulled a similar "trick" in terms of Trump dismantling our 4th Amendment via the Patriot Act... Again, he was fuming... And then I showed him that it was OBAMA! He was absolutely shocked that he had NEVER heard about any of this... And I said " that's because you only watch sports and your family lives in a liberal bubble... And the media only painted Obama as a hero."
Needless to say, my marriage was suffering greatly until my husband found Jordan Peterson and Dave Smith (comedian, podcast: Part of the Problem) For some reason, he "heard" them better. I could say EXACTLY the same thing and he would find a way to argue, or counter my position. When he hears it from Peterson or Smith.... He understands it and is 100% on board. It used to bother me and I thought it was a lack of respect for me.... Now, I don't really care because we finally see eye to eye on politics and we fight less.
George W. Bush DID use the IRS to mess with liberal targets. That's a fact. Each administration is typically guilty of this. Your husband was right not to accept that as good behavior. It doesn't matter who does it. It's wrong.
Men have a way of communicating with each other that we ladies don't quite understand. (Same applies with women) We ladies tend to use more emotion when we speak, and because we are emotional about it, even if we have facts and logic, it is disregarded. It helps my husband and I when I use the "I feel...whatever" if I'm really dealing with feelings. If I have what I believe are facts about a situation, I'll say, I believe... this happened, and here is my evidence."