Sometimes I feel very fortunate that I was born an introvert and have ALWAYS preferred my own company to that of others. I do have a loving wife who understands me and my need for "me time," but she's about the only one who truly understands me. I can get along in the society of others and most consider me affable if rather quiet, but I'm mostly acting the part. Give me a quiet corner, my laptop, and a good book, and I'm a happy man.
As a result of my introversion, I've never really cared about what other people think of me, even friends. I don't need the approval of others, and my favorite meme is the one showing Doc Holliday saying, "If I were to be offended, I would have to value your opinion." Yeah.. that's pretty much me.
So my wife and I, having studied all the available literature, are non-vaxx'ers and will not be persuaded by the opinions of others.
It can be a lonely path, but I’m the same. You’re Blessed to have a wife who understands you...I’ve picked poorly in my time. I want this Awakening to happen and true freedom to emerge, but I find society revolting.
Same. My husband I have raised three of our own kind in that regard. They're social enough to fit in, but not social enough to give a damn if they don't.
Interesting. I would consider myself heavily extroverted since I have an innate natural desire not necessarily at all to be "accepted" by peers, but rather I've just always derived high levels of mental stimulation from social interactions and although timid and shy in my younger years, I eventually pushed myself to become more confident approaching strangers and striking up conversations.
I just find it so fascinating to meet different kinds of personalities and to feel the emotional affects of these people as rapport grows and I can get them to share more and more over time.
I studied Psychology in college (along with Russian randomly enough), mainly because of this inherent desire to interact with as many different people and learn as much as I could about the different drivers of human behavior, emotions and always got off on the idea of being so honed into understanding social dynamics on the micro and macro that I could get closer and closer to being able to anticipate the types of responses people would give me depending on their personality type, the behavior and whatever other factors might apply.
All this to say, I eventually discovered that in order to build the largest following of friends who genuinely admired their relationship with me, it was a consistently important thing to be completely outcome independent. In other words, I realized that by freeing myself from the reactions people gave me in our interactions (especially when it came to picking up women), it dissolved the intuitively felt feeling of neediness from the person and ironically I would often be able to invoke the exact responses of admiration and respect I consciously desired.
So over time, I conditioned myself even as an extrovert, that freedom from outcome AKA not giving a fuck about what people wanted or expected from me, and instead acting in ways that expressed authenticity in my own feelings and emotions, was ironically the best way to get people to like me.
Everyone reaches (or fails to reach) their own level of enlightenment and understanding of themselves. There is no one single way, and I think the human species is unique in that regard. All leopards are essentially the same and have the same drives.... as do all giraffes... and all tapirs etc. But the more sentient the being, the more likely that each individual will have unique quirks and needs and wants. As Heinlein once famously said, "Specialization is for insects."
Sometimes I feel very fortunate that I was born an introvert and have ALWAYS preferred my own company to that of others. I do have a loving wife who understands me and my need for "me time," but she's about the only one who truly understands me. I can get along in the society of others and most consider me affable if rather quiet, but I'm mostly acting the part. Give me a quiet corner, my laptop, and a good book, and I'm a happy man.
As a result of my introversion, I've never really cared about what other people think of me, even friends. I don't need the approval of others, and my favorite meme is the one showing Doc Holliday saying, "If I were to be offended, I would have to value your opinion." Yeah.. that's pretty much me.
So my wife and I, having studied all the available literature, are non-vaxx'ers and will not be persuaded by the opinions of others.
Not giving an F is my autistic super power
It can be a lonely path, but I’m the same. You’re Blessed to have a wife who understands you...I’ve picked poorly in my time. I want this Awakening to happen and true freedom to emerge, but I find society revolting.
I can relate completely
Same. My husband I have raised three of our own kind in that regard. They're social enough to fit in, but not social enough to give a damn if they don't.
Interesting. I would consider myself heavily extroverted since I have an innate natural desire not necessarily at all to be "accepted" by peers, but rather I've just always derived high levels of mental stimulation from social interactions and although timid and shy in my younger years, I eventually pushed myself to become more confident approaching strangers and striking up conversations.
I just find it so fascinating to meet different kinds of personalities and to feel the emotional affects of these people as rapport grows and I can get them to share more and more over time.
I studied Psychology in college (along with Russian randomly enough), mainly because of this inherent desire to interact with as many different people and learn as much as I could about the different drivers of human behavior, emotions and always got off on the idea of being so honed into understanding social dynamics on the micro and macro that I could get closer and closer to being able to anticipate the types of responses people would give me depending on their personality type, the behavior and whatever other factors might apply.
All this to say, I eventually discovered that in order to build the largest following of friends who genuinely admired their relationship with me, it was a consistently important thing to be completely outcome independent. In other words, I realized that by freeing myself from the reactions people gave me in our interactions (especially when it came to picking up women), it dissolved the intuitively felt feeling of neediness from the person and ironically I would often be able to invoke the exact responses of admiration and respect I consciously desired.
So over time, I conditioned myself even as an extrovert, that freedom from outcome AKA not giving a fuck about what people wanted or expected from me, and instead acting in ways that expressed authenticity in my own feelings and emotions, was ironically the best way to get people to like me.
Everyone reaches (or fails to reach) their own level of enlightenment and understanding of themselves. There is no one single way, and I think the human species is unique in that regard. All leopards are essentially the same and have the same drives.... as do all giraffes... and all tapirs etc. But the more sentient the being, the more likely that each individual will have unique quirks and needs and wants. As Heinlein once famously said, "Specialization is for insects."