Hey friends,
I've read many posts here on this topic, so looking to this community for advice. I think many of our familial, friend, and romantic relationships are being tested currently, and I'm looking for help on how to navigate my own.
My girlfriend (who I've seen as a future wife) and I have been together a while and are generally on the same page with all this chaos, she is totally against what is going on. However, recently both our jobs became a bit stricter in regards to their vaccine protocol. She told me today if her work ends up mandating it she will cave and get it even though she doesn't want to. I've told her she has free choice and while I disagree I would never tell her she can't do it.
With that said, I see this as a pretty giant red flag for anyone carrying this mindset. Me personally, if I don't want something in my body it is not going in under any circumstances regardless of who's asking (family, employer, etc.). If someone is willing to cave to their employer with this kind of pressure, what else will they cave to in life? How many other external influences will dictate their decisions?
She's a great girl and I love her dearly, but this whole situation has me questioning and reevaluating everything, including those I'm considering spending my life with. As much as I "trust the plan", things may not get better anytime soon and I want people by my side with backbones of steel.
Any advice from the community on this? Anyone else going through something similar? Looking to keep this as an open discussion, all feedback is appreciated.
Good point. Question is how to go about doing it. Her family thinks she's crazy for not getting it and if her work mandates it she absolutely has to.
I'm on the total opposite end of the spectrum, so my firm opinion could cause a riff between her and her loved ones (who I like as well for the record, we just don't see eye to eye on this).
Well, if you eventually get married, is she going to continue to listen to her family, or you/each other?
You might take it to the next level with her and see how she reacts - maybe she doesn't realize you are that serious, or maybe her family will always come first.
Either way, better to know now than later, and be prepared for the answer.
Best to you both!
She may not realize I'm serious because I've been open about it and said "I don't judge people for getting it". That's what prompted her response about getting it if mandated.
I'm prepared. This battle has prepped me mentally and spiritually for anything, I have no fear of this. Will report back!
Oh, i judge. Especially if they dont want to do it and still do.
You don't judge people for getting it, but she is not 'people' to you.
Yes, please keep us posted, and good luck! 🍀
Well, I brought it up and it caused a disagreement.
She said I was being slightly unreasonable and that we need to support each other through this stuff. I then flipped it and asked what if something were being forced on her kid, would she be saying the same?
I think I got my answer, and it’s unfortunately not the one I was hoping for. Going to continue the discussion but this is quite painful.