I have worked in the ICU of several hospitals for 35 years. "Freaks and psychopaths"? I have known a few freaky nurses but not in the sense that you describe.
The advice you are giving is bad. If you want you loved ones to get the best care, do not go in there acting like a bad ass who is going to kick ass if my granny is mistreated.
Most of the time nurses have primary patients, meaning if they can place the same nurse with the same patient each night, its best for the nurse and the patient. The nurse knows the patients history, knows what is normal behavior and can detect abnormal behavior more easily. A detailed report is not needed, the nurse just needs to know what happened in the last 12 hour shift. It is called continuity of care.
The more seasoned nurses can most of the time choose which patients they want, they like to keep the senior nurses happy, it helps with retention. Before they leave for the day, they will talk to the charge nurse and say I would like this patient back. If you are a asshole they will request a new patient, its that simple. The newer nurses with less seniority will get the patients who have the family who are being a pain in the ass. If you go in there acting like a asshole, the seasoned nurses will avoid your room and choose another patient. You will be stuck with a inexperienced nurse.
Its ok to ask questions but if you are up the nurses ass with every move she makes in the room, the nurse will avoid you and spend less time in the room.
The more questions you ask, the more time the nurse has to stop and explain herself, the more frustrated she will become with you. When she talks to fellow nurses, the conversation she has about you will not be nice and something like, "The family for my patient are a bunch of assholes"
The best advice I can give you is be nice and pleasant. If its one phrase I hear nurses say most often that will determine the care your loved one gets is "my family is so nice" Its not, "The son for my patient is such a asshole, I'm going to do my very best".
Another thing that goes a long way, take treats/food in for them. Candy, donuts, cookies sorta thing. We have families that bring pizza, coffee, chips, ...baklava is my favorite. I am not a nurse but I work side by side with the nurses every day and I partake in the treats brought in, believe me, it goes a long way.
Going in there acting like you are in control, questioning every single decision will not work in your favor. The nurses will go the extra mile to provide granny with everything she needs to make her comfortable if they like you, if you have to demand it, you will not get it. Be nice.
I have worked in the ICU of several hospitals for 35 years. "Freaks and psychopaths"? I have known a few freaky nurses but not in the sense that you describe.
The advice you are giving is bad. If you want you loved ones to get the best care, do not go in there acting like a bad ass who is going to kick ass if my granny is mistreated.
Most of the time nurses have primary patients, meaning if they can place the same nurse with the same patient each night, its best for the nurse and the patient. The nurse knows the patients history, knows what is normal behavior and can detect abnormal behavior more easily. A detailed report is not needed, the nurse just needs to know what happened in the last 12 hour shift. It is called continuity of care.
The more seasoned nurses can most of the time choose which patients they want, they like to keep the senior nurses happy, it helps with retention. Before they leave for the day, they will talk to the charge nurse and say I would like this patient back. If you are a asshole they will request a new patient, its that simple. The newer nurses with less seniority will get the patients who have the family who are being a pain in the ass. If you go in there acting like a asshole, the seasoned nurses will avoid your room and choose another patient. You will be stuck with a inexperienced nurse.
Its ok to ask questions but if you are up the nurses ass with every move she makes in the room, the nurse will avoid you and spend less time in the room. The more questions you ask, the more time the nurse has to stop and explain herself, the more frustrated she will become with you. When she talks to fellow nurses, the conversation she has about you will not be nice and something like, "The family for my patient are a bunch of assholes"
The best advice I can give you is be nice and pleasant. If its one phrase I hear nurses say most often that will determine the care your loved one gets is "my family is so nice" Its not, "The son for my patient is such a asshole, I'm going to do my very best".
Another thing that goes a long way, take treats/food in for them. Candy, donuts, cookies sorta thing. We have families that bring pizza, coffee, chips, ...baklava is my favorite. I am not a nurse but I work side by side with the nurses every day and I partake in the treats brought in, believe me, it goes a long way.
Going in there acting like you are in control, questioning every single decision will not work in your favor. The nurses will go the extra mile to provide granny with everything she needs to make her comfortable if they like you, if you have to demand it, you will not get it. Be nice.