Candace Ownes said something that stuck with me. She said... "What is so good about being a victim?"
What is your opinion on this?
Why do human beings like being victims? Why do humans love talking about how someone is screwing them over?
When you point to examples of how the same thing happens to other people. They get mad at you.
Maybe, victomhood is convenient.
They want to feel pitied, like asking your mom to kiss your booboo. They are a butthurt snowflake that wants to be papered, loved and Cottled regardless of their actions. They may believe a victim is excused of their actions.
But they are screwing me over !
My point is.
They are screwing many types of people over. You are not alone.
People have been screwing me over my whole life. My point is that I am not a victim, cuz I don't go running around telling everybody about it. I try to pick myself up and move on. To me, that is the difference.
My experience with people who consistently portray themselves as victims is that they think it absolves them of being responsible for their circumstances...it's always someone else's fault, which means they have someone else to blame. They also often view themselves as entirely harmless, even as they're making choices that, by proximity, create drama, conflict and havoc in others' lives.
Because it’s easy to blame somebody else for your own sins. People don’t wanna have to let go of sinning - So they will justify that everything is somebody else’s fault. That way they don’t have to be accountable for their own actions.
Narcissistic. They love the attention and everything has to be about them.
You can't look at humans as logical thought machines.
Many of our beliefs and everyday thoughts are irrational, but probably have some kind of survival benefit if you are living a tribe.
Homosapiens have been around for 300,000 years. For 96% of that time, our species lived in hunter-gather tribes. We are mostly optimized for living in such a tribe, not for living in a city-state or a country with rules.
However, we are no longer evolving for beneficial traits. Now the people most successful in life have the fewest offspring.
Love it!
Great point of view!