Hey guys, two years ago my ex-wife (then-wife) and I slept together. At the time we were separated, and she was in a committed relationship with a woman. We had been fooling around for 6 months prior to that.
Now that I'm in a very serious relationship and have pushed back on how our son and I have been treated lately, she's come out and accused me of raping her. It's only in text right now, and I don't believe she'll take me to court over this, but i want to get a little insight as to what to do.
Law frens and people who have knowledge, can you drop some advice below? I'm already cutting off all non-logistical communications related to my son. But from there, I'm at a loss. Prayers are also appreciated.
This can very easily become extremely serious.
I would recommend hiring a lawyer ASAP and following their advice.
Don't be passive, don't just hope that it will all blow over. You need to actively defend yourself.
Gather any and all evidence you have including text messages, emails, note down your recollection of events in as much detail as possible.
Also look at some online Mens Rights resources for some more info. One is the reddit (blergh!) site www.reddit.com/r/mensrights, but there may be ones more local to you that may be able to offer some information specific to the laws in your region.
You need to go at this as hard as you can as quickly as you can otherwise the story could get ahead of you and you'll be constantly on the back foot. It could also be used as grounds to have your kid "temporarily" removed from you until her claims are thoroughly investigated, which could be many years and may even become permanent.
Take this extremely seriously! I have seen good men lose all access to their kids through false claims, then once the mother got her evil hooks into the kids, the kids didn't want any contact ever again with their father. I sincerely hope that doesn't happen to you.
Good luck, friend.
Screenshot, print out, back up onto a drive, etc every interaction. Get it all, in order and bring a copy for the lawyer. Document, document, document. Any future interactions, be recording.