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There are many examples where a family member genuinely cannot safely take care of their family members. I say this as someone who works in nursing. I often work with dementia residents and they do become a danger to themselves and need constant 1 on 1 care. Where you are right is that the nursing industry itself is entirely backwards. The industry does not look at the residents as people but rather as a number. Facilities constantly prioritize having a head in a bed rather than judging on whether or not they can be cared for by the staff in the building. Residents do constantly get ignored and staff consistently get away with doing nothing in nothing because the industry prioritizes having a number of staff rather than quality of staff. The amount of training and requirements to take care of family is far from professional. The work itself is not hard but when the bar gets set so low you’re getting so abysmal people. I have so many stories of horrible staff members and many examples of blatant sexism against me due to me being a male in the industry. All in all the facilities especially the smaller ones do care about your elderly but it’s the way corporate dictates how you take care of these people is what really degraded these residents. During lockdowns i got so many write ups for actually trying to treat residents with dignity and respect.
I frequently say that one of the silver linings with Covid is that we can no longer turn a blind eye to cracks in society. Health care in general is a giant crack, and another is elderly care. My dad was in a great facility in terms of loving staff (well, before Covid; after covid the staff was less consistent). If the staff could have run things the way they saw fit, it would have been an excellent place. But they were hamstrung by nightmarish state bureaucracies and corporate ownership guidelines that simply don't work well. Both health care and elderly care are issues we have to tackle as a society. There are better ways and we have to demand the better ways are implemented.
Yes. I don’t believe corporate is 100% at fault. It’s the nursing staff too. So many nurses get such a sense of superiority and like they know better than anyone and everyone and in reality they usually don’t. So many of my coworkers over the years have been some of the dumbest people I’ve met and I don’t understand how that’s even remotely acceptable to be taking care of our parents and grandparents. I’ve been at many facilities in multiple states and it’s unfortunately the same in every single one. Even during my first days of schooling for nursing the instructors would flat out tell you that none of this makes sense and you will not be doing any of what we tell you. I remember me and the one other man in the class just looked at each other and that look spoke a thousand words. Don’t get me started on the whole covid fiasco with nursing. I’ve so far managed to avoid the vaccine but man they’re still consistently pushing. On a semi unrelated note i actually had a resident who i would go spend time talking to who they all treated like he was insane but the man was right on the money with a lot especially pertaining to covid. He was the only resident who outright refused the jab and they ended up kicking him out and would have rather had him homeless. He was actually a frequenter of this site along with another lady who unfortunately did have early stages of dementia so anytime she would try and talk about anything pertaining to the industry or Q related she would be brushed off.
All in all the nursing industry does not care about your family. They do not care about their needs. They use their faux empathy and make it “look” good but in reality they just care about keeping a head in a bed and racking up as much money as possible and would be damned if they let any negative image prevent them from doing so. It’s so sad.