One of the things that helped me give up alcohol, was to realize for myself, that it is ok to have bad feelings, be depressed about something, feel 'down', be in pain. Once I was ok with just going through whatever mood I was going through, and being ok with whatever that mood was, I was able to not use alcohol as a crutch and things started to improve. Before I internalized this thought, If I was in a good mood I would drink to "celebrate" my good mood, and if I was in a bad mood I would drink to "forget" my bad mood. That thought process just led to a downward spiral and hellish life.
18 years Sober for me. I've gone to a lot of AA meetings and the thing that makes people start drinking again (after roughly 6 months) is the realization that sobering up didn't make the world any less shitty for them. The problems you had while drunk will still be there when you sober up, and people can't handle the idea that they didn't magically disappear. The solution is that you "work the steps" and you are stronger mentally, and better able to deal with them (the other problems) now.
I’m with you. I drink to “celebrate” the good days, but more recently I’ve been drinking to practically fast forward into the next day. I know the issue and I understand why I’m doing it, but getting yourself to stop is just… wow.
Addiction. Find what unmet needs you have that are not being met. Replace the toxic facsimile with behavior that actually fulfills the need or leads to it's fulfillment.
Analysis, reflection, meditation, counseling, prayer, and WILL can help you find it.
Miracles (revelation and support) is natural. You must attune to their existence.
I’m young, about to hit the “mid twenties” and it’s just the uncertainty in life, so much of the safety net I’ve tried to build up and my folks’ have built up is slowly getting chipped away at. I know drinking doesn’t make things better, but at the moment I haven’t thought of anything that I can do to make things better. I just drink to pass the time and pray things get better the next paycheck… which we all know never does
One of the things that helped me give up alcohol, was to realize for myself, that it is ok to have bad feelings, be depressed about something, feel 'down', be in pain. Once I was ok with just going through whatever mood I was going through, and being ok with whatever that mood was, I was able to not use alcohol as a crutch and things started to improve. Before I internalized this thought, If I was in a good mood I would drink to "celebrate" my good mood, and if I was in a bad mood I would drink to "forget" my bad mood. That thought process just led to a downward spiral and hellish life.
18 years Sober for me. I've gone to a lot of AA meetings and the thing that makes people start drinking again (after roughly 6 months) is the realization that sobering up didn't make the world any less shitty for them. The problems you had while drunk will still be there when you sober up, and people can't handle the idea that they didn't magically disappear. The solution is that you "work the steps" and you are stronger mentally, and better able to deal with them (the other problems) now.
I’m with you. I drink to “celebrate” the good days, but more recently I’ve been drinking to practically fast forward into the next day. I know the issue and I understand why I’m doing it, but getting yourself to stop is just… wow.
Addiction. Find what unmet needs you have that are not being met. Replace the toxic facsimile with behavior that actually fulfills the need or leads to it's fulfillment.
Analysis, reflection, meditation, counseling, prayer, and WILL can help you find it. Miracles (revelation and support) is natural. You must attune to their existence.
I’m young, about to hit the “mid twenties” and it’s just the uncertainty in life, so much of the safety net I’ve tried to build up and my folks’ have built up is slowly getting chipped away at. I know drinking doesn’t make things better, but at the moment I haven’t thought of anything that I can do to make things better. I just drink to pass the time and pray things get better the next paycheck… which we all know never does