Dont let that shit get to you, drop it at the door when you leave. I have worked in the hospital system for 30 years, at the bedside, watched thousands of people die. All you can do is your best at the time, make sure noone is fucking up, give everthing you have to keep them alive, but if God wants them, wipe your hands and walk away. Carrying that stuff with you will send you to a early grave. I have coworkers who are new, they get all broken up whenone of their patient expires. I try to explain, you cant have empathy that you take home, it will destroy you. Call it cold hearted but its the only way when you see it every day. God bless you, keep up the good fight and move on.
Yes, good advice. When you are in a helping profess, Iion, you have to be able to say to yourself, "It isn't my life. I am here helping." So, if it's not your life, it's not your problem, and you get to go home and be with your dogs and family and all that. It's not about you, you are there to help them. So you can walk out and be OK. You must be able to resist taking anyone else's problems onto yourself, or you will go under and burn out. It's not being cold, just discerning as to reality. It's like false guilt, which many people live their lives trying to correct. I say, "What was your sin?" And they look askance at me. I say, "If you cannot locate any sin for the guilt that was wrongly heaped on you, it is false guilt." Get rid of it!! Say "No". We all know when we sin, and we should feel guilty. If there is no sin, there is no guilt. It's simple. What is your sin?? Can't think of any? Get some ice cream!!
My daughter is 38...a hospice social worker and has seen too many deaths to count. I really think the increased stress of the last couple years is taking a toll...especially with increased caseload. She is trying to recover from a double ear infection and she just can't not go to work. She has a masters and I know she is very underpaid but this is what she has chosen to do. She is seriously thinking of getting out of hospice for her own health and sanity.
Another daughter is a surgical nurse and her stress is 10 out of 10 also. I applaud all medical workers who try to do their best and believe me your dedication is so much appreciated. God bless you all!
Dont let that shit get to you, drop it at the door when you leave. I have worked in the hospital system for 30 years, at the bedside, watched thousands of people die. All you can do is your best at the time, make sure noone is fucking up, give everthing you have to keep them alive, but if God wants them, wipe your hands and walk away. Carrying that stuff with you will send you to a early grave. I have coworkers who are new, they get all broken up whenone of their patient expires. I try to explain, you cant have empathy that you take home, it will destroy you. Call it cold hearted but its the only way when you see it every day. God bless you, keep up the good fight and move on.
Yes, good advice. When you are in a helping profess, Iion, you have to be able to say to yourself, "It isn't my life. I am here helping." So, if it's not your life, it's not your problem, and you get to go home and be with your dogs and family and all that. It's not about you, you are there to help them. So you can walk out and be OK. You must be able to resist taking anyone else's problems onto yourself, or you will go under and burn out. It's not being cold, just discerning as to reality. It's like false guilt, which many people live their lives trying to correct. I say, "What was your sin?" And they look askance at me. I say, "If you cannot locate any sin for the guilt that was wrongly heaped on you, it is false guilt." Get rid of it!! Say "No". We all know when we sin, and we should feel guilty. If there is no sin, there is no guilt. It's simple. What is your sin?? Can't think of any? Get some ice cream!!
My daughter is 38...a hospice social worker and has seen too many deaths to count. I really think the increased stress of the last couple years is taking a toll...especially with increased caseload. She is trying to recover from a double ear infection and she just can't not go to work. She has a masters and I know she is very underpaid but this is what she has chosen to do. She is seriously thinking of getting out of hospice for her own health and sanity.
Another daughter is a surgical nurse and her stress is 10 out of 10 also. I applaud all medical workers who try to do their best and believe me your dedication is so much appreciated. God bless you all!