So grateful that I found this community which led me to finding God, because without that I dont know how I would have gotten through today.
First I found out my cat passed away, which already hurt...but then minutes after that, my grandfather ive taken care of for 12 years took his last breath and I lost him too. The only thing that kept me from shattering was knowing hes been suffering for a long time and now that suffering is over. I really wanted to numb the pain with a bottle - but i went to an AA meeting instead.
It still doesnt feel real. 😔
Edit - just want to add since several people have already said get another cat - we have other cats, 3 actually, and 1 is with me now (the brother of the one that passed actually) so getting another one isn't really what I need. But thank you for the suggestion.
Damn, that must be hard. I’ve talked to some alcoholics before and I think I understand their addiction. It must take you tremendous strength to stay away from the bottle and I truly respect that. A bottle isn’t going to help you in the long run if you’re an alcoholic. (I drink, but to me it’s like chocolate; nice to have, but take it or leave it. It is my understanding that this is not the case for alcoholics; where it is a physical addiction.)
I’m sure you loved your grandfather, but now he is at peace. Hopefully in time you will have good memories of the him in the past and this will warm your heart.
I don’t know if cats feel much of anything, sorry, we have two cats, ha I’m making a joke, but I’m sure your cat was a great companion.
I’m glad you can lean on God.
My thoughts are with you.
Day by day. One day at a time. That’s all I can tell you. Some days good. Some days bad. Getting better over time if you allow it.
If you’re feeling down and depressed, try to do ONE THING. Just one. Don’t focus on everything you need to do. Do that one thing and hopefully you fill find the strength to do another thing…
Edit: Allow yourself to grieve. You’re only human. It’s normal and healthy.