I don't mean nice guy like the green day song, I mean I'm sure you are trying to do the right thing, but things aren't working out for you. Many people in my life that I know have very similar stories. They call me lucky. Well, I guess my entire extended family and all of their family's are just "lucky" and we had no part to play in the way our lives have gone. I guess we're all just a lucky cog in wheel of life. Maybe you can catch my hint of sarcasm. With a few exceptions, my family has done really well in this world of good families. We aren't lucky, we have a large single minded goal. We seek to leave our offspring with a better life than what we had. We seek God's glory (though we don't all believe the exact same things), we seek his blessings for our communities. We let these desire manifest in a physical way to bless those around us. No one in my family is divorced. Cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, siblings. This isn't luck, there's more to it than that. Yes, I am blessed to have such an extended family, and yes, not everyone can have that kind of family. To say they don't exist is a lie, to say they are just lucky is narrow minded. No family is that "lucky". Just a bunch of whacky dutchies, living a middle class life in the midwest. My family is not wealthy, we are not cabal to have this kind of life, we are just God-fearers. You too can have this. Maybe not exactly this, but you can start it, it's a personal choice and responsibility.