The sexiest thing about a woman is when she is honest and doesn't play games. That mindset can stay with you well into your older years, because if you're relying on the physical part to get you through, at some point you're going to realize the short-sightedness of that position [pardon the play on words]. My first wife wanted sex all the time, on her terms, and it was up to me to step up. That became tedious to the point of resentment because it wasn't special, it was a chore. When I married my second wife, she had been through an abusive relationship so we were both tired of playing codependent games. We just wanted to share each other, and the sex came naturally and it was beautiful. Now, we are older and wiser, and are living in our final years, and personally the best thing is coming home from work to see her, sit down, talk, have a drink, hold hands and be honest. Shit, I don't need a heaven where everyone walks around on clouds. Give me a porch swing with my wife, and our dogs asleep at our feet, because that's all that really matters.