I’m sorry this has been your experience. I have a very welcoming church. They never locked down or enforced masks, and I live in a VERY blue area. My church has been truly a diamond in the rough haha. People come dressed up or in jeans or shorts. No one cares what you are wearing, we just want you to show up. And attendance is fine for us. I just see people get lazy and will miss a few weeks in a row. This can be dangerous to the individual. Also, if I see someone not show up for a few weeks that sparks a red flag for me. I'll reach out to see if everything is ok. Often times, they are not doing well and are fighting spiritual demons (depression, anger ect.) People tend to retreat when they are knocked down (I tend to do that too). This is just one example on how to keep things accountable. I agree, the livestream is great use of technology for the church, but you also have to check it. I am not pointing fingers but speaking the truth to hold us accountable. The pandemic wanted lockdowns and for people to stop congregating together. I can tell you are hurt in this area and I am truly sorry to hear that. I will be praying for you.