Your self described "instant reaction" to choices you immediately didn't like was to call those choices "retarded".
Perhaps self reflect using your own words; " the fact is that ad hominems, whether overt or covert, do not belong in rational debate/discussion".
Practicing what you're preaching will improve your ability to be authentically persuasive and/or heard more clearly. This is, of course, true for everyone.
No ones walking over you, they are trying to criticize you and you refuse to understand their viewpoints.
Exactly, they are criticizing tendie instead of having a debate about it.
And the criticism isn't even about the subject matter now.
Perhaps re read the words YOU chose OP.
Your self described "instant reaction" to choices you immediately didn't like was to call those choices "retarded".
Perhaps self reflect using your own words; " the fact is that ad hominems, whether overt or covert, do not belong in rational debate/discussion".
Practicing what you're preaching will improve your ability to be authentically persuasive and/or heard more clearly. This is, of course, true for everyone.