For me, the process is to take myself out of the equation, my ego, my hidden need to seek approval, etc. I ask God to use me in service, and I ask for strength when I feel weak, anything I could possibly give someone that would do them any good comes from God. Money? I don't have that much laying around. People know that, but my time and effort? Well, there's some advice that goes like this, "don't cast pearls upon swine". I have taken folks in after a fire destroyed their trailer, shared my barn for folks with animals who needed it through the winter, gifted a good chainsaw to a man who had to harvest his own wood for winter. I give to the food pantry.If I have more than I can use, I share the extra. I may be a rural homesteader, but I moved into that lifestyle 35 years ago. I was raised in NYC, Queens, excellent training to avoid getting scammed of goods or services. Always pray when someone requests something from you, you will get the answer.God wants us to show charity, it is considered a Grace, but he also provides us with discernment if we pray for it.