I am way over the hill, and delighted that those hormonal days of longing are over, but let me give you some hints about women. The healthy ones are not attracted to neediness, we can smell it a mile away. It has nothing to do with being woke, and everything to do with having been there and done that. One of the most attractive things about a man is his autonomy, his integrity, his attention toward a woman that does not project need, but desire for her individually.To put us all in the same category as, "I just want to meet a good woman", is not gonna do it, we want to be wanted because of who we are, our smile, our eyes, our sense of humor, intelligence, our ability to bait a hook or help you dress that deer. We want a man who will not hurt us, who will not drop the courting as soon as we commit, who will be interested in what we have to say. We do not want to be pressured for intimacy, that is a big ugh, and, it is clear to us that a man does not give a damn about who we are if that is what happens, because a man can sense if we are interested or not, and if he cannot, then he is not really interested in us, just interested in getting laid. The younger folks call dating the same as screwing. Let me refresh them. Dating means going out for dinner, going to a movie, going for a hike and then lunch, going to an event together, safe places where we can watch you and see how you are, and if we would be proud to be seen with you. I had a friend once who was getting sober, and she whined to me once, "I just wanna go on a date". What she meant was that she wanted to get laid, which is fine, I am not going to judge someones need for sex, but, I told her, if that is what she wanted, dont go calling it a date. You will meet someone some day, and it helps if you do not have all these preconditions, other than, of course, the sex of the person you would like to maybe have a close relationship with. There is something very attractive about a man who is self possessed and whose only need is to be someone great in a womans life, but it has to be a certain woman. Not just any attractive girl will do, it has to be that certain person. I might like men with beards, because I think its attractive, but that does not mean any single guy with a beard. And, for the win, we like guys who make us laugh.