What often happens is a man who can't find the big bosomy woman he wants decides to become one instead. Perfect solipsist narcissism. Destruction of femininity by removing all definition of it; infiltration and subjugation. Childhood abuse is a big contributor because the trans-woman life is so often the living out of a vindication of the child's abuser by sublimating it into a later "consensual" sodomy.

The answer to abuse is never more abuse but is always healing. People believe the big lie because they are naturally disposed to reject what is good for them due to misperception of the rewards of tempered virtue and the eventual punishment of temporary vice perceived wrongly as pleasure. True love is that which finds a way to reach such a person and woo him to what is truly good and loving for him.