Except many don't. I have a relative that came out as gay back in college and was embraced & supported by his family and siblings. He also got the full college and master's program paid for by his parents while his other siblings did not. After college he moved back home and lived rent free for years with the parents paying for his lifestyle while he brought guys back home for 'sleepovers' much to the angst of his religious parents.

Then he became an absolute orgy goer, had a number of lousy relationships in which both parties cheated constantly on each other. His friends began dying of AIDS, he got some awful STDs and he became pretty angry at the world, screaming that he hated God and that he was a victim.

He began smoking, ate badly, got sick, didn't help himself, stopped working, and ultimately was useless to his family, unavailable when help was needed, always professing that he was broke. He wouldn't return phone calls or emails and now lives like a recluse within his small gay community and talks with no one in his family.

And then there's also the kind that walk in the Pride parade wearing S&M bondage leathers who publicly dance around with their genitals hanging out or crawl on all fours with a leather dog mask aka a 'Pup Trainer', complete with spiked dog collars and harnesses, happily doing so in front of vulnerable children.

Then there are the ones who attend the orgies and get Monkey Pox and post their photos on social media with infected pustules all over their faces.

There are the Drag Queens who groom and do 'story hour' and encourage the little children to come up and touch them or give them dollar bills. The grooming has become blatant.

The more productive ones often have HIV. A good example of this is gay Senator Scott Wiener from SFO who passed laws in CA that makes it a misdemeanor to give someone AIDS without telling them, rather than a felony, and also put forth legislation to give HIV positive people a $1,000 per month stipend and other special privileges. All of his legislation and effort is not to help his family or his community, only HIV-positive gay men like himself.

There are very few examples I can think of (although there are some) where the gay males became an asset to the overall non-gay community.