That answers your question then fren. Listen to Atlas_One.
Right now you are thinking with young affection/passion and that is normal. But think of 10, 20, 30 years from now. What Atlas One is getting at is, would you consider this person a trusted friend? Once the flames of passion/affection go out, that's what you're really marrying...a friend. And if you're gonna live under the same roof with that person the rest of your life, you have to be able to get along and be ideologically compatible (or close to it).
People don't change much after 21 or so. You won't be able to change her, nor do you sound like a man willing to break for her. And there are other lives here beyond the 2 of you.
If you have a child someday, who's gonna get the final say in what that child reads, learns, vaccinates, eats, watches, etc etc. Wife may want child fully vaxx'd. If you disagree on that topic or any other, expect some major blow-ups between the two of you.
Trust your instincts. The fact that you posted and have doubts about even kissing her or having sex should probably tell you everything.
P.S. Don't feel like an "asshole" or insane. Whether its the vaxxx or anything else, people SHOULD give relationships this much thoughtful consideration because there are short-term and long-term affects/consequences. You dedicating this much critical thought to something this important shows how awake you really are.
That answers your question then fren. Listen to Atlas_One.
Right now you are thinking with young affection/passion and that is normal. But think of 10, 20, 30 years from now. What Atlas One is getting at is, would you consider this person a trusted friend? Once the flames of passion/affection go out, that's what you're really marrying...a friend. And if you're gonna live under the same roof with that person the rest of your life, you have to be able to get along and be ideologically compatible (or close to it).
People don't change much after 21 or so. You won't be able to change her, nor do you sound like a man willing to break for her. And there are other lives here beyond the 2 of you.
If you have a child someday, who's gonna get the final say in what that child reads, learns, vaccinates, eats, watches, etc etc. Wife may want child fully vaxx'd. If you disagree on that topic or any other, expect some major blow-ups between the two of you.
Trust your instincts. The fact that you posted and have doubts about even kissing her or having sex should probably tell you everything.
P.S. Don't feel like an "asshole" or insane. Whether its the vaxxx or anything else, people SHOULD give relationships this much thoughtful consideration because there are short-term and long-term affects/consequences. You dedicating this much critical thought to something this important shows how awake you really are.