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Who else misses their grandma? I lost mine in 2021 and she was someone I love most in the world. I still think about her everyday.
I feel that rship between child and grandparents can be even stronger than w/ parents..maybe because they're older and wiser? while parents are usually still trying to figure things out. Is it just me? Anyone else here really close to their grandparents more than parents?
The cabal didn't start really poisoning things and people with chemicals and medications until later.
That's probably why you could identify with them
My grandfather taught me almost everything I know. He was a stud. I suspect he hunted vampires. 😎
I really miss my grandma, we were really close. I was her favorite. Actually, I wasn’t anybody’s favorite. Only hers. So we had a special bond. She was also the only one who ever spanked me, I appreciated that. It meant that she loved me.
Edit: my daughter is not going to have children, she’s firm on this, and I’ve known it for a long time. So I will never be a grandmother. Also, my brother and his wife of Japan, and they never had kids. So I’ll never be an Aunt either.
I am resolved to this fact, although it seems sad, I’m trying to live my best life now. Headed to Kauai in May, and I’m so excited I’ll be spending six weeks their pet sitting and housesitting for my family. It’s my second home now and I love it.
I don't plan to have kids either due to financial and medical reasons. My parents are quite sad about it but my mom has gotten over it. She leads a Bible study group where a lot of youth joined and they always call her Mommy and always seek her for advice and such, she said she feels like she has adopted many grandkids and feels happy about it. Sometimes when things are not meant to be perhaps God wants us to focus on someone else or other callings in life.
So glad to hear you're living your best life. Cheers!
I pray your daughter comes around. Not that there's anything we can do about it, but she's really missing out completely if she doesn't have children by choice. It's a shame. Whenever I hear someone say they refuse to have children it makes me deeply sad.
You should try going to local playgrounds sometime in the mid-morning to early afternoon. There are often tons of children who could use a good grand motherly influence, even if for just a morning. I go every day with my young son and always pick up a gaggle of hangers on. It's absolutely beautiful for all involved... And I feel it often "wakes up", to a small degree, the "cell phone parents" whose children I end up parenting. The world needs more drive by grandparents and parents. 🤗
Well, I would agree with you, but my daughter is totally LGBT. She think she’s nonbinary, and she’s denied Christ.
I’m almost relieved, because if she had a child, she would screw it up completely. She would be a horrible mother, and we would be fighting about whether I can share Christ with my grandchild. Actually, my daughter didn’t even talk to me for an entire year. She would use the child as a pawn.
Since we live in a 55 and older neighborhood, there’s not a lot of kids neighborhoods around if you know what I mean. Lol. However, I do have a job pet sitting. I really love it, and I get to love on these animals and give them attention. For the most part, animals do love unconditionally, so it’s nice to have that for me.
Today, I’m watching three dogs, we run around the yard together, and a little sheep dog chases me and barks and nips at my heels. It’s hilarious. The dog just needs somebody to heard! The other two run with each other while we do that. It’s not quite grandchildren, but it does bring joy to my life.
I’m happy that you’re having that wonderful experience. I’m sure it fills your heart with joy, and your son enjoys having you in their life as well
resigned
Grammar Nazi!
Resolved:
a : to deal with successfully : clear up resolve doubts resolve a dispute b : to find an answer to c : to make clear or understandable d : to find a mathematical solution of e : to split up into two or more components especially in assigned directions
For me - A - applied - my daughter not having children was an issue that I had doubts about, and there was a dispute at hand. It was ‘resolved’ successfully, by me accepting that fact and moving on.
If you really want to get grammatical about it, perhaps I should’ve said…
I have resolved these facts.
OR
If I was you, you would’ve said…
I have resigned to the situation.
But I’m not you, and you’re not me, so… I don’t come here for people to correct my grammar. But thank you anyway.
Also, quite often, I use text to talk through Siri, she will change whatever she wants, whenever she wants, even after pressing save. This happens a lot. Unless I go back through and read every single thing that I’ve ever posted, I don’t know until somebody tells me. And I guess that’s you today. However, I can’t blame Siri, because this one is on me.
In addition, right before I was going to press save, I went back through and read my entire comment. Siri once again had changed around the words. It’s quite exhausting having to edit your work over and over, and then come here and have somebody criticize your grammar.
I’m sure if you look closely enough at this comment, you can find all kinds of grammatical errors.
It’s ok. I resolve to be your Fren. Resolve or resign. Who gives a hoot or two?😂
I never knew my grandparents.
My mum's mother died when she was 11, and her dad died when she was about 16. She never talked about them much at all, either, when we were growing up. I knew virtually nothing about them.
My dad immigrated from his home country when he was about 20 years old. His parents visited our country once (for a few weeks) while I was growing up, and we lived over there for a few months when I was about 10.
Neither of my dad's mother or father spoke English. Apparently, I learned dutch - my dad's native tongue - very quickly and I liked being with my grandfather, but my dad was one of 12 children, most of who stayed in the home country very close to the parents, so my brothers and I weren't exactly special - among around 30 or so grandkids....
Not having grandparents in your life seems to cause such a break in the natural order. I think it breaks continuity of context in a big way, among other things. So much harder to understand your own parents - who they are, how their own parents influenced them, why they do certain things - just understanding that there is a past that existed before you came along.
I've since learned quite a bit about my mother's mother, and I've come to feel close to her spiritually. I think she's always been around, although I never recognized that feeling until very recently.
I don't envy folks who know their grandparents, even if its only one, but if you do, be grateful. Not having grandparents is pretty hard.
Wise words. 👍
My mom’s mom-I miss her very much. You could talk to her about anything and she was the kindest, gentlest person and always had cookies and would hide them down low and let me go looking for them. She had a perpetual cup of coffee in her hand and was a very good artist. She was a social worker at the VA for about 20 years and worked really hard to help make changes for vets. Here is what struck me the other day- the irony in life.
My brother died on his motorcycle because he gave his helmet to his passenger who needed a ride home and so he went without. It was one rare time he wasn’t wearing it. The accident was deemed passenger caused.
My grandma, who had Alzheimer’s had begun to fall a lot but loved to walk so they gave her a helmet to wear and that one time she wasn’t wearing it-she fell and hit her head and died from a brain bleed.
She sounds like a beautiful person.