When I was growing up I got spanked by my parents and whenever it happened I almost always did something to deserve it and I knew it. My cousins got the same, and my siblings.
My grandma is Indian from Trinidad and Tobago, she had the scarriest punishment and you knew to listen to grandma and behave:
- normally she'd give you a light knock on the crown of the head, it was like the worse ever because nothing is injured and she hardly touched you and it hurt so bad
- "The heat for the seat" was a large wooden decorative spoon the size of a plate, she broke it on my cousin when he wouldn't stop beating me up
We laugh about it now, he knew he deserved it and it was funny in hindsight that it broke after correcting 2 generations of familly members.
Growing up I could always tell the kids that were never spanked from the ones that were. The kids who were never spanked all had these traits:
- complete lack of fear of authority
- complete disrespect for adult
- bullying of others, including crybullying
- lack of respect for the law
- propensity to cheat
- no respect for other people property
- a willigness to commit petty theft for fun
I think that the modern ideals are wrong. I believe in the old wisdom of our forefathers.
Grandma was right to hit us.
Hit the nail on the head with those spoiled brat traits list. I was shopping the other day with my mom and we went to the toy section to pick out some nice toys for a little raffle her work is doing. As soon as we entered that area of the store I could hear a young child crying and wailing like crazy. Not a baby, not even a toddler (I can forgive the really little kids for crying when they're uncomfortable, hungry, or tired) but a little boy of about 5 who just kept wailing and wailing, clearly throwing a tantrum that he wanted some toy.
No father in sight (of course), only the mother and her little daughter of about 7. I never once heard the mom give one word of reproach to her son, even to shush him. The boy just kept blaring and crying about a toy he wanted and I never even heard the mother speak up. The little girl was well behaved but that little boy clearly was not taken proper care of. All the mother eventually did was pick him up to carry him (instead of putting him in the cart) and they slowly walked away after letting him wail for over 10 minutes in the toy department.
If that had been me as a kid my mother, and definitely my father, would have dragged me off after less than 15 seconds of crying to another part of the store to cool me off, reprimand me, or just leave the store entirely. This mother, however, somehow thought that ignoring her child was the best way to get him to stop. Clearly it wasn't working because he was still screaming loud and strong after more than 10 minutes. I understand that a child will throw a tantrum to get attention sometimes so ignoring their outbursts is often the right course of action, but clearly this boy was screaming because he wanted a toy, not attention.