My wife just rushed to hospital, resting heart rate at 130, red skin, out of breath, misremembering things and stumbling. We’re both unvaxxed and under 35. I’m home watching our son, trying not to freak the fuck out! Any prayers or words of comfort are appreciated; this woman is my entire world, I’m scared shitless and don’t know what to do and have no where else to turn….I just want help. We’ve tried so hard to push through all the bullshit but now this happens—I’m so close to breaking frens, help me please.
Update: still in hospital. CTs, MRI, EKG, US all negative for any clots or embolisms. Doctors still aren’t sure what’s causing it- best working guess so far is POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome) which is an excessively reduced amount of blood returning to the heart when moving from laying to sitting to standing. BP and heart rate still spiking anytime she has to get up. Pumping fluids and electrolytes and looking into starting a beta blocker until her OBGYN can assess hormone levels. Heart monitor hooked up for next cpl weeks. Home/bed rest until then. Not a whole lot of info or treatment for it so we just have to wait and see for now.
Fren, what a trying situation for you to be facing. I don't know if you know Jesus, but if you don't, this would be a very good time to meet Him. PRAY! Ask Him for healing for your wife and peace and calm for you and your son. Get on your knees and humble yourself before God and ask Him to give you the strength to face this and to be with you as you deal with it.
I'm not a medical person, but it sounds like she had a reaction to something - maybe a severe allergic reaction. I have already prayed and will continue praying for your family in this situation. I pray that the doctors will quickly identify what is wrong and be able to treat it successfully, and that you are able to remain calm and collected for your sake, your son's sake and your wife's sake. Bless you fren, we will all continue to pray, I'm sure. This is a great group of believers. Please keep us posted on her progress and if you can, surround yourself with some people who love you and will support you, not further stress you out. Take care.
Thank you so much fren. I’m trying. I’ve strayed so far over the years, I’m trying to keep the faith but the constant barrage of shit we’ve had has pushed us to our limit. I know it is precisely times like THESE that we need HIM the most, I’m just such a struggling sinner that I don’t feel worthy of his help, which terrifies me even more…
You ARE worthy, you were included in the list of people He died for, willingly, as a plan, and He already knew everything you would do. He WANTS you to turn to Him so it will be worth the sacrifice.
I hope you’re right. I swear I’ll turn my soul around and open my heart to Him, I just want her to be ok. I’ve been so confused, angry, lost and bitter for so long, but the one constant that has kept me grounded in goodness, for the sake of goodness, has been HER. Our family is everything to me, and im not strong enough to carry on in this bullshit without her.
This is exactly why you need a strong friend, the strongest, and if you can work out your own problems it will be the best thing you can do for your wife in the long run. Maybe the short run too. I think the prayer you are looking for is "help, help, help," without conditions. It's a valid prayer, has often worked for me. Praying for your peace.
No one is worthy. Accept God’s grace. It may sound silly, but humbling yourself on your knees and praying aloud to God is powerful.
Darlin', none of us are worthy. That's the whole point. Jesus came to us, when we 'were yet sinners.' And He willingly went through a torturous death for you and me, and for everybody. His sacrifice is too precious not to receive. Don't spend a minute worrying that you are not worthy. He believes you are and that's why He did what He did. Don't make His suffering for nothing.
I have literally shed tears over this. I can imagine how you have felt, the terror, the unknown. I can understand how you feel and it moves me. Now, God understands how you feel so much better than I do. He will be with you if you let Him. Lean on Him for everything. I know you said your wife and your family are everything to you. I understand that. I do. But now it's time to let God be your everything. Lean on Him and expect Him to hold you upright. I'll certainly keep praying.
Thank you so much fren. I have to admit that a calming presence came over me Tuesday night, yesterday was busy and stressful but I’m aware of an underlying calmness I don’t usually feel. I’ve made a promise to mediate and focus on this more and try to rebuild my relationship with Him. Thank you for your very kind words of support and empathy, I got emotional again reading your reply (and others), I’m always amazed by the community we have here and I appreciate you gobby.
Update: still in hospital (should go home this afternoon) CTs, MRI, EKG, US all negative for any clots or embolisms. Doctors still aren’t sure what’s causing it- best working guess so far is POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome) which is an excessively reduced amount of blood returning to the heart when moving from laying to sitting to standing. BP and heart rate still spiking anytime she has to get up. Pumping fluids and electrolytes and looking into starting a beta blocker until her OBGYN can assess hormone levels. Heart monitor hooked up for next cpl weeks. Home/bed rest until then. Not a whole lot of info or treatment for it so we just have to wait and see for now.
I signed in today to see if you had posted an update and I saw your new thread. I'm glad that at least they know some things it is not. The POTS you mentioned seems so strange. Why wouldn't she have had signs of that prior to this point in her life? I don't know. Perhaps that's not an unusual thing to develop as an adult. I will continue to pray for all of you. And I am so pleased to hear about your new sense of calm. It IS real. I can so distinctly remember an absolute calm descending over me when I had to go to the emergency room during the whole covid thing. I wasn't allowed to have anybody with me and I had to make decisions about emergency surgery. I felt so calm and collected (if you knew me, you'd know that is not my usual state, lol.) I had such a sense of peace. It was like an actual hum. I will never forget that. I know it was God watching over me and allowing me to feel His presence. I would like that for you, too. And your wife and son.
I do hope the doctors will get to the bottom of this quickly. Perhaps it is the POTS, perhaps it is not. I will pray they are enlightened about the actual cause and will be able to treat it successfully. Take care, ShadiLayMeDown. You have a lot on your shoulders right now, but you also have help in a way you had nearly forgotten. I'm glad He is back in your consciousness.