For those who aren't biologists: chromosomes definitively determine the gender of the individual. There is no debate of this point possible. It's just raw naked scientific fact, and it doesn't give a fuck about your feelings or twisted sex fantasies.

XX = female

XY = male

That's literally the end of the story.

NOTHING you can ever do can alter your chromosomal makeup. Every single cell of your body is still male if you're an XY. For your own sanity, what little of it there is left: you need to learn to accept and love yourself for who you are, instead of living a delusional lie and forcing your lie, selfishly and cruelly, onto everyone else.

Ever hear of enjoying sex fantasies in private? Give it a try.

Normal folks: You have no need or obligation to ever use any pronouns at all.

Never. They are always optional parts of speech. You can simply use the person's name, the "noun" for which the pronoun is intended as a substitute.

None of us gets to deny anyone else their chosen NAME. That one term, you do get the right to choose for yourself. But not your pronoun too. (Asserting a right does not actually confer that right.)

If John changes his name to Julie, then that's become his her Julie's NAME. I'll call Julie by Julie's chosen name, but not Julie's chosen pronouns. If Julie hates Julie's biological pronouns and I don't care to force the issue, I won't use any pronoun for Julie. And I won't call Julie John, because that's not Julie's name any more; same as if Miss Small marries Mr. Brown and takes the name Mrs. Brown, I'm not still calling her Miss Small. That would be rude.

Just say NO to pronouns whenever you wish. It's always up to YOU.