Welcome to General Chat - GAW Community Area
This General Chat area started off as a place for people to talk about things that are off topic, however it has quickly evolved into a community and has become an integral part of the GAW experience for many of us.
Based on its evolving needs and plenty of user feedback, we are trying to bring some order and institute some rules. Please make sure you read these rules and participate in the spirit of this community.
Rules for General Chat
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Be respectful to each other. This is of utmost importance, and comments may be removed if deemed not respectful.
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Avoid long drawn out arguments. This should be a place to relax, not to waste your time needlessly.
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Personal anecdotes, puzzles, cute pics/clips - everything welcome
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Please do not spam at the top level. If you have a lot to post each day, try and post them all together in one top level comment
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Try keep things light. If you are bringing in deep stuff, try not to go overboard.
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Things that are clearly on-topic for this board should be posted as a separate post and not here (except if you are new and still getting the feel of this place)
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If you find people violating these rules, deport them rather than start a argument here.
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Feel free to give feedback as these rules are expected to keep evoloving
In short, imagine this thread to be a local community hall where we all gather and chat daily. Please be respectful to others in the same way
I think so too. I pray for my old friends, and I cry. I try to be careful about tears as my daughter doesn't understand this yet and it could depress her. Also, my wife doesn't like it when I cry. I also don't want her to feel uncomfortable because the one I weep for the most was the girl I had dated a bit before I met my wife, and this girl liked me. Her family wanted me to marry her. But she was wasting away with anorexia, etc. Once I had my long-distance girlfriend, she tried to get closer to me, even while she had attended school in Berkeley. It was that summer when her dad dropped big hints that he'd like me to marry his daughter. But I had to decline. I was the last decent, Christian boy she dated and after I had a fiancee, her life went spiraling into darkness and she's since rejected Christ. I've been in contact with her dad for a half year now and he's told me not to beat myself up over this, and to stop blaming myself for his daughter's bad decisions. Although I did not marry her, I still love her and it breaks my heart. I occasionally send her postcards and sometimes text messages, reminding her of God's love, but she never responds. She's married to a militant atheist and he's killed what faith she had in God a long time ago.
You are not responsible at all for her decline. God saw the future and he didn’t want that for you. I seriously don’t think it would’ve made a difference in her life. It sounds like she was already on the path to destruction. We are not the saviors to others. The only one that can change her is Jesus. She is going to have to hit rock bottom and fall on her face before she looks up. A word of advice please don’t reach out to her anymore. Give her to Jesus. Don’t let this be an issue in your marriage. The enemy would like nothing more than to destroy that relationship with your wife. Ask God to send someone her way but it’s not you. I say this because I have been there thinking I could save someone and it didn’t end pretty at all. So love your family.
It’s sad but the children are always the ones that suffer most from mistakes of adults. I just don’t want your family to get caught in the cross hairs of this situation. I just now that past relationships can reap havoc on a marriage. You have to guard your marriage first and foremost. If the children stay in touch that’s one thing but making contact with an ex is asking for disaster. Guard your heart. Remember the enemy seeks whom he can destroy. And marriages are at the top of his list.