I have two now adult daughters. During adolescence they were self-conscious about their changing bodies (totally normal at that stage). They were, and are naturally modest, as am I. I cringe when I see what SO many young women, including teenagers, are wearing at the beach. String bikinis, boobs hanging out, etc.,. Modesty in dress is really no longer a thing, though I believe most young girls don't actually like dressing with it all hanging out, and would feel more secure and comfortable in clothes with better coverage.
One of the lines boys will use on girls, and I know because my friend's daughter came home crying and screaming at her, years ago, is that the boys were calling her a lezzy because she would not give a boy she had a crush on a blow job, and her mom did not let her wear make up or revealing clothes "like the other girls". The kid was sobbing, saying they were calling her queer and lezzy etc because of her modesty and refusal to have sex, she had told someone she had a crush on this guy, he heard about it, propositioned her, and when she said no and had her heartbroken, he told all his friends. Well she is all grown up now with a husband and two kids, her son recently joined the navy, and she is okay. But some teenagers are cruel and mean.
"the IMPLICATIONS of this are NOT understandable by a 12-13 year old."
Or by an alarming number of older people, it seems.
I have two now adult daughters. During adolescence they were self-conscious about their changing bodies (totally normal at that stage). They were, and are naturally modest, as am I. I cringe when I see what SO many young women, including teenagers, are wearing at the beach. String bikinis, boobs hanging out, etc.,. Modesty in dress is really no longer a thing, though I believe most young girls don't actually like dressing with it all hanging out, and would feel more secure and comfortable in clothes with better coverage.
One of the lines boys will use on girls, and I know because my friend's daughter came home crying and screaming at her, years ago, is that the boys were calling her a lezzy because she would not give a boy she had a crush on a blow job, and her mom did not let her wear make up or revealing clothes "like the other girls". The kid was sobbing, saying they were calling her queer and lezzy etc because of her modesty and refusal to have sex, she had told someone she had a crush on this guy, he heard about it, propositioned her, and when she said no and had her heartbroken, he told all his friends. Well she is all grown up now with a husband and two kids, her son recently joined the navy, and she is okay. But some teenagers are cruel and mean.