He's nearly 21 and has never had a job. He wakes up every morning eager to do something but never follows through on any plans he makes. One minute he was all amped up about residential pest mitigation and the next he wants to be an inspector for local rivers and help clean up debris... I am honestly frustrated, he won't cook or clean let alone help with our financial struggles.
I really love him with every inch of my heart and soul but I don't know how to get him to contribute more or be more independent. I really don't want to kick him out but I don't think it's fair for him to contribute nothing to our relationship.
I'd really appreciate any thoughts or advice from my frens.
Edit: thank you all for your advice about my dog, I'll see if I can get him to cook but there's no way I'm letting him join the military. He kept that squirrel and neighbors cat out of the yard so I think I'll take him down to the river to fetch sticks.
Edit 2: I have found my kid employment, he is now wrangling small unicorns for work.
Give him a hard deadline to get a job and start paying rent.
I actually don't have a mortgage or pay rent myself, maybe I'm leading by bad example? I'm fortunate and grateful but it's pretty clear to me that a roof over his head is more of a right than privilege to him.
See if you have any good trade schools near-by, maybe give him the option of going to school.
What Pbman2 suggested about trade schools is a great idea. He won’t just be sitting in a classroom, he’ll get hands on training. Some trade schools have environmental job training, that might be an avenue of interest for him.