He's nearly 21 and has never had a job. He wakes up every morning eager to do something but never follows through on any plans he makes. One minute he was all amped up about residential pest mitigation and the next he wants to be an inspector for local rivers and help clean up debris... I am honestly frustrated, he won't cook or clean let alone help with our financial struggles.
I really love him with every inch of my heart and soul but I don't know how to get him to contribute more or be more independent. I really don't want to kick him out but I don't think it's fair for him to contribute nothing to our relationship.
I'd really appreciate any thoughts or advice from my frens.
Edit: thank you all for your advice about my dog, I'll see if I can get him to cook but there's no way I'm letting him join the military. He kept that squirrel and neighbors cat out of the yard so I think I'll take him down to the river to fetch sticks.
Edit 2: I have found my kid employment, he is now wrangling small unicorns for work.
He needs a job. Something to show up for everyday and perform a task, even if it's only bagging at a local grocery store.
Give him chores to do at home and expect him to complete them. Tough love. If children never have goals, a schedule or expectations by you, the parent then they will never become a functioning member of society.
Your son is 20, an adult, now is the time. I will pray for you.
He cleans the floor but I usually have to ask.
Make a list and give him 1 chore each day. Write it on the calendar where he can see and be reminded. Help him look for a job and fill out an application.
I know...these are things I did at 8 years old...