He's nearly 21 and has never had a job. He wakes up every morning eager to do something but never follows through on any plans he makes. One minute he was all amped up about residential pest mitigation and the next he wants to be an inspector for local rivers and help clean up debris... I am honestly frustrated, he won't cook or clean let alone help with our financial struggles.
I really love him with every inch of my heart and soul but I don't know how to get him to contribute more or be more independent. I really don't want to kick him out but I don't think it's fair for him to contribute nothing to our relationship.
I'd really appreciate any thoughts or advice from my frens.
Edit: thank you all for your advice about my dog, I'll see if I can get him to cook but there's no way I'm letting him join the military. He kept that squirrel and neighbors cat out of the yard so I think I'll take him down to the river to fetch sticks.
Edit 2: I have found my kid employment, he is now wrangling small unicorns for work.
I tell him every day that he is a burden and he doesn't care... or about money. He's got no problem eating my food and using up my resources however.
The time to train him was 20 years ago. Now you're going to have to create a crisis for him if you are going to force him to grow up. Maybe he'd like to join the military? They'd help him figure out what he wants to do.
He's actually adopted, I didn't have much say in his upbringing. The military won't take him.
I am guessing you have some experience with different social service programs. There are job programs for young people who have disabilities.