He's nearly 21 and has never had a job. He wakes up every morning eager to do something but never follows through on any plans he makes. One minute he was all amped up about residential pest mitigation and the next he wants to be an inspector for local rivers and help clean up debris... I am honestly frustrated, he won't cook or clean let alone help with our financial struggles.
I really love him with every inch of my heart and soul but I don't know how to get him to contribute more or be more independent. I really don't want to kick him out but I don't think it's fair for him to contribute nothing to our relationship.
I'd really appreciate any thoughts or advice from my frens.
Edit: thank you all for your advice about my dog, I'll see if I can get him to cook but there's no way I'm letting him join the military. He kept that squirrel and neighbors cat out of the yard so I think I'll take him down to the river to fetch sticks.
Edit 2: I have found my kid employment, he is now wrangling small unicorns for work.
Maybe a slow maturity level, never give up on a child. Brain maturity at 26! Many of mine came back after college and were welcomed then as they would be now. And all left and found successful careers. Be patient, be sure he does not smoke marijuana because it can crush motivation in some individuals. Not everybody!
He has taken a few edibles but I can tell you he's never smoked anything and has barely ever had any taste of alcohol
What about some sort of voluntary job helping local people? There must be something like that around your town and county. Its very rewarding and looks good on a resume.