He's nearly 21 and has never had a job. He wakes up every morning eager to do something but never follows through on any plans he makes. One minute he was all amped up about residential pest mitigation and the next he wants to be an inspector for local rivers and help clean up debris... I am honestly frustrated, he won't cook or clean let alone help with our financial struggles.
I really love him with every inch of my heart and soul but I don't know how to get him to contribute more or be more independent. I really don't want to kick him out but I don't think it's fair for him to contribute nothing to our relationship.
I'd really appreciate any thoughts or advice from my frens.
Edit: thank you all for your advice about my dog, I'll see if I can get him to cook but there's no way I'm letting him join the military. He kept that squirrel and neighbors cat out of the yard so I think I'll take him down to the river to fetch sticks.
Edit 2: I have found my kid employment, he is now wrangling small unicorns for work.
I wonder if you are a person of faith? Time to lead by example, strive & deepen your faith. Share with him your experiences. Faith is powerful.
I would encourage him to get any job, a part time job…or volunteer at your local gleaner’s organization. Get him out contributing even if you must go with him for the follow through. A job, is a confidence builder.
Pssst... I made a satirical post about my dog, mocking a post that hit the top on GAW. I'm actually a pretty decent Christian with no biological children of my own. I love my dog and I thought it would be pretty funny to use him to point out a couple things around my favorite part of the internet. I took this joke too far but it's definitely people like you that make me love this place. My love and Rooster's 🐓 love go out to you.
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