Look, I don't care if you're into hamsters and duct tape as an adult. Just STFU about it... don't parade it around for everyone, especially children to see and emulate - in fact stay completely free and clear from any child. Unfortunately, kind hearted "hormonally challenged" gays have to take the brunt of this stigma because the statistics don't lie. Sorry... not sorry.

Keep your activities in the closet where they belong. You don't need, and you're not going to get, nor should you expect, hetero people to "celebrate", validate and confirm your preferences or pronouns. In reality, I think most gays would agree with what I'm saying.

"Why do they talk like that?" So they can easily identify one another... and there's a whole bandana code thing as well from what I've heard. I stopped wearing bandanas 20 years ago, except for covering my head while welding...