I hear you. Try being married to someone who I now believe falls on the Asperger's spectrum who feels very little emotion and simply doesn't react or notice when something happens, while I feel everything for everyone, read body language like an expert and see everything and react in microseconds.
It's so hard to explain my feelings and observations to those in my sphere who just can't understand nor fathom any of it.
One example of my marital mismatch:
Years ago, we we went to see a movie together and then to dinner afterwards near the theater. The movie was a new blockbuster that was full of fantastic dialogue, incredible special effects, great soundtrack, and clever comedic moments. It ran almost 3 hrs. I thought it was absolutely terrific and couldn't say enough good things about it as we walked out. I liked it very much.
After being seated at our table, our waitress asked us if we'd just come from the theater and what did we see and did we like it?
My spouse said, "We saw ___. It was fine." And that was the entirety of the response. Sigh...
It's tough living in this world with the kind of disparate thinking patterns we each possess!
You're describing my marriage. My husband is the same. We could be eating a most delicious meal out at a lovely restaurant. He will completely clean his plate and I'll ask him if he enjoyed it. He'll say it was alright. He's Spock, I'm Kirk. It's tough at times but somehow we make a good team.
Try being Nuerodivergent (ADHD) in your 50’s and in corporate America surrounded by moron millennials.
I hear you. Try being married to someone who I now believe falls on the Asperger's spectrum who feels very little emotion and simply doesn't react or notice when something happens, while I feel everything for everyone, read body language like an expert and see everything and react in microseconds.
It's so hard to explain my feelings and observations to those in my sphere who just can't understand nor fathom any of it.
One example of my marital mismatch:
Years ago, we we went to see a movie together and then to dinner afterwards near the theater. The movie was a new blockbuster that was full of fantastic dialogue, incredible special effects, great soundtrack, and clever comedic moments. It ran almost 3 hrs. I thought it was absolutely terrific and couldn't say enough good things about it as we walked out. I liked it very much.
After being seated at our table, our waitress asked us if we'd just come from the theater and what did we see and did we like it?
My spouse said, "We saw ___. It was fine." And that was the entirety of the response. Sigh...
It's tough living in this world with the kind of disparate thinking patterns we each possess!
You're describing my marriage. My husband is the same. We could be eating a most delicious meal out at a lovely restaurant. He will completely clean his plate and I'll ask him if he enjoyed it. He'll say it was alright. He's Spock, I'm Kirk. It's tough at times but somehow we make a good team.