If I had a child who was showing signs of mental illness, anxiety or depression, the very first thing I would do would be to take them out of school and begin home schooling. I would seek counseling, my choice of counselor or therapist. Puberty is hard on some kids, and the school system and peers are a pressure that they do not need as they struggle with what is bothering them. I was not a helicopter parent, but my son trusted me growing up, and I can still read him like a book when something is troubling him. Unconditional love, so, if he had come to me with this kind of problem, I would have made sure to listen first without judgement, and then together find a kind and intelligent counselor for him. These "identity" issues are fostered by peers, the culture, etc, but if you parent from when they are young, you can steer them away from such things just by parenting the way we are suppossed to. This gender business does not just fall from the sky, its our job to shepherd them carefully with love and firm boundaries. My opinion is that this gender crap has a lot to do with their fear of growing up and leaving childhood behind, maybe a girl or boy is not mature enough to face manhood or womanhood, does not know their place when they see some other kids dating, being popular, having sex, and it is all overwhelming. So instead of encouraging them to make drastic changes like changing their sex, allow them to develop at their own rate. And parents can certainly control, before puberty, what they are exposed to. Girls really change fast, one day you are playing and riding your bike, and then your body changes and you get your period and if you have good role models of your same sex, it can help and make all the difference in the world to not be so scary. I wish our culture had some "rites of passage" for young people, to guide them. But with all the perversions and pedophilia going around, who can you trust?
You are a good parent, but not all of them are like that. Some are in fact hands-off. I know some. One of the kids die of drugs and breaking into people's home and got shot by a retired Marines. Then the parents want to sue and was counseled against such.
Thank you, I raised a good man. This was sort of my point, how the hell do parents have a child that is going through something like this and not know? Where are they? You can have rules and a disciplined life and still be full of love and support and trust. Letting the schools raise your child and then wanting to sue them because of the result is a little too late, in my opinion.
If I had a child who was showing signs of mental illness, anxiety or depression, the very first thing I would do would be to take them out of school and begin home schooling. I would seek counseling, my choice of counselor or therapist. Puberty is hard on some kids, and the school system and peers are a pressure that they do not need as they struggle with what is bothering them. I was not a helicopter parent, but my son trusted me growing up, and I can still read him like a book when something is troubling him. Unconditional love, so, if he had come to me with this kind of problem, I would have made sure to listen first without judgement, and then together find a kind and intelligent counselor for him. These "identity" issues are fostered by peers, the culture, etc, but if you parent from when they are young, you can steer them away from such things just by parenting the way we are suppossed to. This gender business does not just fall from the sky, its our job to shepherd them carefully with love and firm boundaries. My opinion is that this gender crap has a lot to do with their fear of growing up and leaving childhood behind, maybe a girl or boy is not mature enough to face manhood or womanhood, does not know their place when they see some other kids dating, being popular, having sex, and it is all overwhelming. So instead of encouraging them to make drastic changes like changing their sex, allow them to develop at their own rate. And parents can certainly control, before puberty, what they are exposed to. Girls really change fast, one day you are playing and riding your bike, and then your body changes and you get your period and if you have good role models of your same sex, it can help and make all the difference in the world to not be so scary. I wish our culture had some "rites of passage" for young people, to guide them. But with all the perversions and pedophilia going around, who can you trust?
You are a good parent, but not all of them are like that. Some are in fact hands-off. I know some. One of the kids die of drugs and breaking into people's home and got shot by a retired Marines. Then the parents want to sue and was counseled against such.
Thank you, I raised a good man. This was sort of my point, how the hell do parents have a child that is going through something like this and not know? Where are they? You can have rules and a disciplined life and still be full of love and support and trust. Letting the schools raise your child and then wanting to sue them because of the result is a little too late, in my opinion.
I agree with you. My parents would never let us get to that point.