The problem with the programming is that is absolute, you have to believe all of it or it doesn't work. It's like a sweater with loose threads, it doesn't matter which one you start to pull at the end result is that whole thing comes unraveled.

This is part of the plan from my observation, to increase the speed at which all the DS was going to do is done to the point of waking up more and more people. At some point the people that can be woken up without the big red pill are going to figure out something doesn't make sense. Once that happens, they are open to other aspects of life not making sense and that's it, the DS has lost that person. As time goes on, and life gets crazier this realization gets more and more obvious.

The people that aren't awake yet are likely to go down with the ship in terms of conscious realization of whats going on. For those people, they get a full near death experience which, though it won't immediately red pill them, they'll be so upset with these DS people they'll want them gone regardless of what they've done otherwise.

That's the super simply summary of the plan in my belief. If she's being that combative about your questioning of the official narrative, it's likely because she's feel the strain of keeping the narrative going in her world view. That's likely to be a good thing in that she'll be more likely to part with that world view once SHTF. For my wife and I, we've given up on waking our relatives and friends up, we still put out tactical little red pills here and there so they will understand that we knew before the SHTF and talk to us about things afterward. That's the best we can do at this point I think.