Imagine spending your childhood in places that are fundamentally not real. Your first friends are characters or words on a screen, your internal narrative as a human being underdeveloped because you spent most of your life passively consuming instead of living in the first person. This is a hard topic for me to write about personally, but it desperately needs to be explored at the highest level. I want to do my best to convey what's happening to the younger generation here.
People my age are suffering and I believe the unexamined root cause of this is excessive media consumption. Older generations use digital media differently. For boomers, the internet is a tool to interact with the real world. They communicate with family members on Facebook, catch up with the news, shop online. Their digital use is centered around the world they're familiar with - the real world.
Those who grew up with the internet - and I mean really grew up with it have a completely inverted relationship. Their primary experience of reality is through watching. I'm going to paste a YouTube comment I saw here:
I searched for, “I hate the internet,” “internet childhood,” “internet is pathological,” “ruined by the internet.” I’ve been calling this effect internet psychosis—a lapse in individual narrative or the inability to form a cohesive identity due to the fundamental betrayal of self in letting the entire world’s voices into your head. It’s like being psychotic, and the effects generationally are quasipsychotic, and psychosis is extremely offensive to the human social system because it is intolerably dangerous to drift from reality.
This might be hard to understand at first, but it makes perfect sense when you think about it. Social media is designed to be addicting. Reality is not. What we're seeing now is that social media is gradually devouring our time and thus our entire perception is distorted through the lens of digital content. Gen-Z youth culture exists entirely online. Our identities are now defined by the type of content we consume more than what we actually do or the kind of people we are. Friendlessness is becoming the norm even among seemingly healthy, attractive people with no history of mental illness. Bars are empty or filled with old people. Kids aren't playing outside. This is because nothing in the real world even comes close to the level of stimulation available online. In capitalism we see everything as a competition. Right now, the real world is simply unable to compete with the internet for our time and attention. This is why people are lonely. This is why people don't want to work anymore. This is why college age people get anxiety ordering food at restaurants or making a phone call. We're digital natives. We no longer feel at home in the physical world.
This changes everything.
First of all, we no longer live in the first person perspective most of the time. We live primarily in the third person, watching without interacting. This creates a sense of disassociation that people my age can often relate to even though it's not discussed much. We often feel like aliens or like our bodies are a weird vessel on an alien planet. It can be scary and disorienting at times.
We also have a highly fractured sense of identity. What happens when most of your social interaction is anonymous or through a 2D internet persona? How do you look back on a life spent mindlessly scrolling short-form content? We as human beings learn about ourselves by reflecting on our past and through our associations with others. What happens when we have no past, no life, and no friends? How do we tell a story about who we are to ourselves?
They say the medium is the message. What medium is life now experienced through? It's no longer our own eyes. It's a screen and an algorithm. It's the Tetris effect on a mass scale.
Media is mental junk food. It gives us the perception of love, adventure, despair, beauty, friendship and achievement without actually offering it. The generation growing up now is being deprived of what makes us human, because it's simply easier. It's a cruel experiment.
Psychosis is a mental condition that causes people to lose touch with reality, making it difficult to distinguish what's real and what's not. Is that not what these conditions are leading to? When you sit in a dark room all day without love, without human touch or human interaction, and feel fine. When your body does practically nothing for 8 hours and yet you feel like you've accomplished something. Is that not, at the practical level, a psychosis?
I'd be interested to hear your perspective. I know "phone bad" is trite at this point but I really think there's something deeper going on here.
I love this breakdown. You are articulating well what I've been struggling to wrap my own head around. I know that screens and media consumption are bad, but I havent been able to articulate why. My stepkids consume a lot of media (not in my house, but in their other) and their identity is shaped by youtube shorts that they see. It's strange, and their attention spans are non-existent. I wish I knew what to do about it
I've been thinking so much about this lately, to the point where it's probably not good for me lol.
I'm sorry for your stepkids. I hope they can look back on their childhood with fond memories and feel like they're part of the world regardless.
Op, the Internet of today is not the real Internet. Pre google, the web was basically the Wild West of information. It was conspiracy land where Alex Jones videos were top of viral trending. At one point, Google video top 20 was all conspiracy videos about the Fed, 9/11 and Alex Jones videos.
What you’re seeing is heavy redacted to warp your sense of reality. Only Gen X knows what the real uncensored well was really like. It was awesome and added value to reality. Now it’s become a 5G Weapon of war and it’s sad.
Look at this: https://www.cnbc.com/2020/04/17/bill-gates-is-top-target-for-coronavirus-conspiracy-theories-report.html
https://www.cnbc.com/2024/09/05/bill-gates-online-misinformation-is-top-unsolvable-problem-for-young-people.html
These people are presenting factual helpful information as lies and lies as historical undeniable truths. I’m so sorry, but the generations need to unite. My parents skills are needed, you are correct I notice how boomers use tech different.
Ive noticed how Gen Xers literally cannot speak to you and look in the eye. They have to be looking down at a screen. Our behavior is being merged with corporate control technology and it’s dividing this nation on a scale never seen. We shall be united. Take a hike. Go to the beach. Tune out of a little. It’s ok. This shit show will always be here. Guard your mind.
Edit: it isn’t the phones. It’s the AI manipulation algos, it’s the spying, Zuckerburg admitted they fed everyone’s posts and private messages from 2008 into an AI database proprietary to Facebook. We’re being targeted and harder digitally in ways we can’t even see. And each person is manicured on an individual based. The tech and info companies are literally swinging elections worldwide just by deleting a post or two. They are determining what’s real or what is truth. It must stop. It’s deception on a level only the devil himself could dream of.
I've heard good things about the primitive internet but you have to remember it was a different world back then. It was a small part of life instead of the main thing. I don't think there's any way the technology in it's current form can be healthy on a mass level. Individuals might learn to use it responsibly but society as a whole is still going to suffer.
The real question is, what will it take for the current generation to reject the false promises of the internet as it is today?
The things you describe have always been with us in one form or another (drugs for example) but the internet has massively accelerated everything.
One of the main challenges is that it offers easy solutions (that actually aren't). Until people wake up and realise that life is essentially other people it's going to be hard to get them to understand anything else.
Great post -- I have said this for years. Although convenient for life, the Internet ruined humanity. Everything fell off a cliff when it began. Going to the bank, shopping at the mall, having to wait to develope pictures, all of these seemingly meaningless things are what made us have to interact with one another and have patience. We have been ruined by instant gratification; a huge price to pay for all that convenience.
I think the Internet has saved humanity. The Great Awakening would not have been possible without the Internet, and the Devil would have ruled over humans forever.
I agree - one of the many benefits. However, it has made bad things way worse -- human trafficking, porn availability, online predators, as examples..... Hopefully, the Internet can wake enough people up to eventually walk away from its allure and get back to doing things that are productive.
True that the Internet has made some bad things worse, such as porn availability, and has introduced some new bad things such as online predators. But i think human trafficking was always that bad, even before the coming of the Internet, and the Internet has merely caused more exposure of these cases, rather than a rise in cases.
Very well written. It appears to me the young population is being split between those whose parents limited their screen interaction and made them go out and do activities with people, and those who allowed their kids full time on screens.
If anyone here didn’t get enough real world experience, it’s never too late. Efforts will have to be made. Find books or a therapist or a screen addicts support group to help you work on it. It’s possible to recover and develop an off line normal life. You have a choice. Just thinking about it , and self awareness is step one.
I have a nephew who was given an i-phone at 8 years old. He is the most socially retarded person I have ever met. He has no people skills and is now 25.
8 years old would be considered very late these days. Now kids start when they're literally too small to hold the screen.
Yep - my now 2nd grader told me in Kindergarten that some kids in her class already had phones. My 11 yo has a nickname for the kids addicted to screens: he calls them tablet kids.