I have NOTHING to own up to or apologize for, I am not the one with a problem...

...But you do:

****My late spouse had a congenital birth defect in which her right hand was no more than a paw. It was traumatic growing up with that. She had to learn how to do anything dextrous (like writing) with her left hand. Adults were decent enough not to mention it in public. I can only imagine you would find that "off putting."

The fact that you brought up your late spouse's birth defect as an example of something you thought I would find off putting means that YOU conceptualized it as off putting. I may or may not find something I haven't encountered a off putting....but it looks like part of your psyche did.

I am sorry your spouse passed away and I am hopeful he had a great life full of love. And yet, your emotions are not going to manipulate me on a truly innocuous observation and expression of a personal opinion.

Off putting. Off putting. Off putting.

And since you are so off-put by my opinion I'll allow you to have the last word.

I've got more interesting things to do than to coddle your feelings about my opinion of someone you don't know and who doesn't know you.

Deuces.